My Morning Meditation Game Changer.

My Morning Meditation Game Changer.

Dear Universe: 

I have a new morning routine that I am in love with – morning meditation.

I am not exactly a newbie when it comes to meditation, but I have never in my life ventured away from the “guided meditations.” You know, the ones where you put on a recording and listen to someone tell you what to do during your experience.

So this morning I tried something for the first time: Meditation on my own.

It was the most amazing self realization experience ever. I sat there with my eyes closed for 30 minutes, focusing on my breathing, and quieting my mind.

After a few deep breathing cycles, I was finally able to move out all the clutter thoughts – the “things I need to do today” and stuff like that – I was suddenly immersed with the most beautiful thoughts and lessons I needed to be learning. It was almost as if I was asking a higher power to sort of “show me the way” through some of the obstacles I feel faced with right now.

And BOOM. It hit me. A wave of self discovery.

So right after the half hour was over I ran upstairs to get my notebook and write down all the thoughts I came away with.

Here they are.. out there for you universe. 

-Money is an expression of love. I am open to receiving it.

-I am my most important client. When I don’t focus on growing and bettering myself, I cannot help change the lives of others.

-I am a role model for my audience. I give and I receive. I am a peer among this community – equal to all of these wonderful women and never ever above them.

-I love connection. I don’t get hurt by it. I live passionately for my community.

-I need to continuously be growing and improving myself so the I can be the best representation of what loving yourself truly can do for you.

-Receiving is beautiful, abundant and full of love. It is not scarce.

-My creativity fuels me. It is my purpose. And has my deep gratitude.

-Do what you love and the money will follow. The lives of others will change. you will make a difference. All you have to do is follow your heart and passion and the universe will reward you.

-I put myself first not because it is selfish, but because I am teaching others to do the same. Practicing what I preach ….. not just saying what is right, but living what is right every single day.

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My First Time With A Straight Man… In Sephora

My First Time With A Straight Man… In Sephora

Dear Sephora:

I am coming out of the closet: I prefer women.

There is something about being approached by a beautiful woman all dolled up in your store, rocking that gorgeous Kat Von D eyeliner, that makes me feel safe and excited the same time.

I’m not exactly experienced. I am looking for a woman to guide me. So when I walk into Sephora and scope out the makeup expert with the perfectly contoured face and sexy lipliner, I instantly feel warm inside.

“Do you need help with anything?” she will ask.

“Yes. Make me beautiful.” – (That’s my sexy pickup line, in case you are wondering.)

Yup. I prefer women. And I don’t mean that in a sexual way. I mean it in a “Help me pick out the best 42 dollar eyeliner” sort of way.

So when my boyfriend and I walked into Sephora this weekend and a straight man approached us, things got real awkward real quick.

“Do you need any help?” He asked.

I just stood there trying to jumble my words together to form a sentence.

(How do I tell this nice man I prefer women?)

AWKWARDD PAUSE.

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I realize in today’s day and age, it isn’t exactly appropriate to discriminate against someone based on their gender or sexual orientation. Okay, correction, it never really was appropriate at any time. Period.

But how can I possibly get the best makeup advice from a man who doesn’t wear any? And how do I tell him that?

So there I stood next to my boyfriend in the store, trying to find the words to politely decline this man’s offer based on my own Sephora-Sexual Orientation.

It felt more awkward than if a man at a bar asked to join us in the bedroom for a little rendezvous. “No sorry, ladies only.”

“I um… think I’m going to need someone else to help me?” I said to him. But I sort of phrased it as a  question because I had no idea how the heck to say this the right way.

He laughed.

“Sorry, is that not appropriate to say? I don’t really know how to say that I need guidance on makeup, from a woman and not a man. You aren’t really experienced in wearing any!”

He laughed again.

Then he told me his wife loves the discount he gets.

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So I tried to go along with it and let the straight man help me. After all, men are known for walking into a store, getting what they need and just leaving. Quick and easy shopping.  So since I had Matt with me, I was in a rush already. I didn’t want to take too much time in Sephora anyway.

I didn’t drag my boyfriend there so he could spend hours watching me get dolled up in new shades of Bobby Brown. Seriously. I did want to get in and out of there quickly. Matt needed new cologne, and I needed a new concealer to cover up my blogging-life eye-bags. It was a simple trip, so why not give the makeup guy a try?

But even though I tried to be open to it, my shopping experience didn’t feel right. I felt so insecure and unsure of the items I was putting in my bag. I didn’t feel trusting in his advice on the latest products or his reasons why I should buy a concealer crayon instead of a tube.

Is that my own incredibly naive bias? Or is that real life normal girl thinking? Am I allowed to feel insecure about a man giving me makeup advice when he has no real experience in wearing makeup? Or maybe he does have experience, and I just have no idea. Maybe he dresses up on the weekends or is in the process of becoming trans. I HAVE NO CLUE.

But what I do know is that I felt very bad for feeling the way I did.

Am I allowed to politely decline getting help from someone based on their gender or their sexual orientation?

I want to know what you think on this….

Is it okay?

Because I’m still not sure I know the answer to that question.

And I wish I did.

I left Sephora with some beautiful new concealer and a beautiful bag of new goodies for my face. So I guess it was a win.

The Sephora guy shook my hand goodbye before I left.

“So… how was your first time with….?” he wanted to know how he performed of course.

This time I laughed.

“Yes. My first time with a straight man was wonderful thank you.”

I just was wishing it was a woman the whole time.

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Natural Skin Care Tips for Feeling Beautiful

Natural Skin Care Tips for Feeling Beautiful

Every time the summer ends and winter rolls around, life starts feeling cold, dry and itchy. Literally. The cold weather and change in season makes my skin fickle and a little more sensitive than usual. Having a solid go to survival practice for treating my skin in the winter season is essential for feeling beautiful. So today I wanted to share some of those awesome natural skin care tips so you can have that beautiful glow no matter what season!

 

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Natural Skin Care Tips

The Simple Natural Skin Care Tips for Self-Care

Natural Beauty Tip One: Don’t use too many products. I never realized how important that was until I started getting compliments on my skin! I don’t use a lot of products on my face or body (actually I hardly use any.) And even when I do, I try to keep those products as natural as possible. But if you do need to use chemically based products, I always recommend keeping it basic. Don’t use too many different kinds in one week. Keep things as simple as possible.

Natural Beauty Tip Two: Keep A Routine. I make it a point to have some sort of natural skin care treatment on my face at least once a week. Adding that to my routine keeps my care consistent  and I don’t forget to treat myself. Every night I do something special for my skin – either moisturize with a coconut oil, exfoliate with a sugar scrub, or reduce my puffy eyes with a little face mask.

Natural Beauty Tip Three: Don’t Just Treat Your Face. Treat Your whole body. This is really important on my list natural skin care tips because without treating my whole body, I wouldn’t get that full effect glow for feeling confident and beautiful. Whatever I do to my face, I always try to do something consistent to the rest of my body. If I am exfoliating my face, I’ll dry brush my legs and arms. If I am trying to moisturize, I am sure to do it from head to toe. It gives my confidence an extra boost!

Natural Beauty Tip Four: Moisturize in the most natural way possible. I am always using coconut oil to treat my skin and moisturize regularly. You can read all about it in this post. The most natural moisturizer is best for keeping your pores clean and healthy.

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Natural Skin Care Recipes and Tips – More!

Okay… now the fun stuff. RECIPES AND HOW TO TIPS!!

These are my go-to favorite natural skin care recipes on my list of go to natural skin care tips. These are in my back pocket at all times!

Dry Brushing How To 

DIY Sugar Scrub 

DIY Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

Homemade Body Wash Recipe 

Detox Bath Recipe 

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Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

We all have cellulite.. Lets Face it. But I found this awesome Grapefruit Scrub that has since been a game changer. I am actually rushing through this post now to go make it – The Amazing DIY Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

 

Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

Grapefruit does amazing things for your body. Remember those old crazy fad diets where you ate nothing but grapefruit all day? I forget what they were called, but there is actually a reason behind the madness of that ridiculous starvation diet – IT’S GREAT FOR YOU.

“The antioxidant vitamin C, when eaten in its natural form (in fresh produce as opposed to supplement form) or applied topically, can help to fight skin damage caused by the sun and pollution, reduce wrinkles and improve overall skin texture. Vitamin C plays a vital role in the formation of collagen, the main support system of skin. Hydration and vitamin A are also crucial for healthy looking skin, both of which grapefruits can provide.”

-Grapefruit is a magic fruit. Mix the Grapefruit oil with Juniper and Rosemary? And you got an AMAZING MIX!

-Grapefruit essential oil contains large amounts of the anti-inflammatory enzyme bromelain, which helps break down cellulite.

-Juniper essential oil is known for its detoxifying and purifying effect.

-Rosemary leaf oil stimulates circulation and vital metabolic processes.

Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

Grapefruit Cellulite Scrub

-½ cup olive oil (can also use almond, jojoba or even coffee-infused oil)

-15 drops grapefruit essential oil

-10 drops juniper essential oil

-5 drops rosemary essential oil

-1/4 a cup of Sugar

Stir ingredients in a glass jar. Massage the mix on the skin in a circular fashion it increase blood flow. Do this 3-4 times each week. It’s AMAZEEEEE

WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ESSENTIAL OILS AND HOW TO GET THEM? CLICK HERE

Okay.. that’s enough from me. It’s time for a bubble bath and an awesome sugar scrub time!

 

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Simple Self Care Activities to Relax!

Simple Self Care Activities to Relax!

Life is busy.  Take it from me. My schedule is jam packed. On the average day, I barely have enough time to shave my legs in the shower (so usually I just skip it.. sorry Matt.) Having a busy schedule is tough, but I know i am not the only one who struggles with fitting everything into a schedule.  As Betty Davis once said, “We are all busy little bees full of stings making honey day and night.” No matter how “put together” any of us busy little bees are, we always need to take a little time for self care. Hence today’s post: I’m showing you my favorite self care activities to relax and decompress!

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Simple Self Care Activities to Relax!

I consider myself a pretty put together person; very organized and usually always productive. But I am also a very busy person; trying to jam pack everything into one day. Sometimes things get too hectic for me, and I find myself unraveling. That’s when I know I need to push on the breaks and take a little time out for myself.

Having a list of  self care activities I can rely on when things get stressful really helps me. I know that no matter where my mind is or how stressful things are in my life, I can pull out this list of self care activities and pounce on whichever item makes me feel the most excited.

So here’s my special list. And I’m breaking it down for you by topic! <3

 

Self Care Activities to Feel Relaxed

-Go for a long walk. While your walking, think of all the things you are grateful for. Try to embrace that feeling of being blessed for all you have.

-Try meditation! Meditating is a great way to connect with your body and yourself. Clearing your mind is a great way to recharge.

-Go to the movies by yourself, see something you’ve been wanting to see and don’t be afraid to go alone!

-Go to the bookstore and grab a new book you have been wanting to read… or even just grab a random new one that interests you! Take time to pick out something that you are excited about, and schedule a little reading time to yourself.

-Write down all the things you are grateful for. It definitely helps to see all the reasons you should be happy right on paper.

Self Care Activities to Feel Beautiful

-Go get a manicure. While you are getting your nails done, try to think about WHY You are beautiful.

-Treat yourself to a nice massage

-Try a new makeup brand or product. Go to sephora they will give you a nice makeover!

-Try an at home spa day!

-Have a nice detox bath. This recipe is great for removing toxins and calming your body.

-Go get a haircut, a wax, whatever! Spa it up!

Self Care Activities to Feel Happy

-Put on music and just DANCE!

-Rearrange the furniture in your home so it makes you happier!

-Try singing for a little while!

-Put on an old favorite movie or comedy you love and laugh it up!

Self Care Activities to Feel Love for Yourself

-Buy yourself a fun card and write a letter to your future self.

-Buy yourself flowers. Sometimes on my regular visit to a grocery store I pick up a pretty bouquet of flowers for myself, it is just a sweet reminder to love me for me.

-Treat yourself to a new piece of jewelry or a new little small something to remind yourself why you are awesome. I love getting Alex and Ani bracelets with positive inspiring messages or even notebooks with a cool motivational quote just to remind me that life is blessed.

-Love yourself in anyway

-Be truly happy for who you are.. tell yourself you are worth this love every single day!

 

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