Want to know how to be a badass? Well.. good. because we all need to be badass game changers in our lives. I got inspired to write this post a while back, after reading Jen Sincero’s “You are a Badass.” If you haven’t read it yet, you need to. You can check out this post, I wrote about the book if you want more details.
When I read the book last year, I was super inspired and motivated to write a follow up. But I guess I was too busy being a badass to actually take the time and write about being a badass. Yeah. I’ve been wanting to write this follow up for FO-EVA! It’s about damn time I share this with you
The secret lessons I learned from her book, and how to be a badass in your own life!
So What Exactly Is a Badass?
I’ve crafted my own answer to that question. Based on what I learned from Sincero’s book and my own life experiences, I’ve decided that being a badasss is actually a good thing.
It’s definition is a little complicated.
Basically it means your a person who grabs life by the reins and actually takes action. You’re a go-getter. A decision maker. A dream creator. And a game changer of your own life. You don’t let other people dictate your decisions, and you don’t live in fear.
Basically you go out and make happiness in your life without giving a fuck about what other people think.
You follow your heart.
Sincero puts it perfectly in her book:
“You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.” — That’s a badass.
“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.” Another “how to be a badass” lesson.
“You are (only) a victim of the rules you live by,” – So let’s change it and be an amazing badass rockstar shall we?
But just in case you don’t get the point already, let me just over emphasize this a minute:
We all need to learn how to be a badass in our live. We all need to start creating the future we want and take some big risks to go make it happen.
(Yes. Being a badass is a GOOD THING.)
The Secret Steps for Learning How to Be a Badass
Okay.. you ready? I am going to share with you the breakdown of everything I learned in Jen Sincero’s book. Not because I love writing book reports (I actually hate them.) But because I love you (my readers) so fucking much that I need to share this with you. IT’s GOLD.
Stop living an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs.
This was by far the biggest wakeup call for me when reading this book and learning how to be a badass. Basically, we are believing and living life based on what other people tell us is right and wrong. And guess what? About 90 percent of it is bull shit. “You need a 401k,” and “You can’t be an artist that isn’t a real career,” blah blah blah. How many limiting beliefs do you have based on what other people have told you is right and wrong in your life? Go kill those beliefs. Dead them dude. Start living by your own rules.
If you think shit, you get shit. So get your head out of the gutter.
Stop complaining about all the bad things that have happened to you in your life and start focusing on the good things you want. This isn’t just for fairytale wishing and living in la-la-land. Positive thinking attracted positive actions and experiences. The more you continue to sulk in all your hardships, the more hardships you’ll have. Check out my post on the law of attraction if you need more.
Loving yourself is the key to all happiness.
Thank god I knew this one already. Or else I would be incredibly lost in my life. Self love is the key source to all happiness and good in your life. If you want to learn how to be a badass, the first step is DEFINITELY learning how to love yourself. Check out the Perfection Program – because that 30 Day course shows you how to make that self love happen in your life. But For now, just rely on this quote from Sincero’s book: “When we’re happy and all in love with ourselves, we can’t be bothered with the bullshit (our own or other people’s.)
Do not waste your time worrying about other people.
I could write a million sentences about this till I’m old and gray. But I’ll just share a line from Sincero’s book: “DO NOT WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS TIME GIVING ONE SINGLE CRAP ABOUT WHAT ANYBODY THINKS OF YOU.” (she put this in caps for a reason guys. She’s serious.) Instead, start focusing more on yourself, what you want and how you should go about getting it. Letting go of what other people think is a huge big important part of self love (not to mention it’s in the Perfection Program.) Check out this post if you want to learn exactly how to let go of what other people think.
Yup. You got it? Know how to be a badass now? Good. Go be it girl.
Oh.. and if you need more tips
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