I remember my unhealthy relationship years ago kept me asking this question over and over and over again.
“Is this really a healthy loving relationship? Or is this, by far, the most toxic thing I have ever experienced in my life.”
You would think that is a simple question to answer – but in reality, it’s one of the hardest things to decipher when you are going through it.
Love is heated and passionate. So it’s only natural that a relationship has ups and downs right? So how do we actually figure out if we are just having a normal relationship or a seriously destructive disastrous romance that leaves us running for the hills?
Today’s post… breaking it down for ya!
Warning Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship
Take a good hard look at your relationship and see if any of these little warning signs ring a bell.
When you fight, you feel like you are constantly being misunderstood.
Time and time again you are finding yourself in heated arguments that you feel like you never officially “solve.” Not to mention, you find yourself fighting about the same things over and over again with little results. What’s worse is that when you have these arguments, you feel like no matter what you say he just “doesn’t get it.”
You feel like you have tried to change yourself to please partner too often.
You stop being as “emotional” to please him. Or maybe you stop being so flirty because he isn’t comfortable with affection. Or how about all the times you yelled or started raising your voice and thought to yourself, “this isn’t me. Why am I acting this way?” If you find yourself changing who you are in a negative way, your relationship may be doing you and your individuality some serious harm. Part of being in a loving relationship is accepting the differences and uniqueness each partner brings to the table. And if you feel like your relationship isn’t doing that, it may be a big warning sign your love life isn’t really as healthy as you thought it was.
You have a lost your sense of worth or confidence and can attribute it to your relationship.
You feel stuck. Insecure. Afraid of walking away because you don’t think you’ll find anything better. In my past relationship, I was always scared of walking away because I was told so many times that “No one else would ever love me.” I started to believe I was damaged goods, and that even if my unhealthy relationship was bad, I wouldn’t be able to find anything else. This is a big red flag.
You are constantly giving yourself and getting little back.
You give up hobbies, cancel time with friends, devote all your energy to trying to fix the relationship, but when you reflect on your partner’s actions, you see little of the same “hard work” that you keep putting in. You constantly try to show your partner that you do love them, hoping to get some love and affection back but often times you feel like nothing happens.
It’s time to walk away girl.
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