I Can’t Believe It Sometimes…

I Can’t Believe It Sometimes…

I changed my life. And not just in a small “little change”ing sort of way. I changed my life in a big fantastic amazing bad ass wonderful way. That even still surprises me.

Like WOAH.

But it didn’t happen over night.

How do I sum it up?

Basically I went from being a completely lost human-being with zero self worth and tons of messed up life issues to being a person I am truly proud of.

Yeah. Big. But not an overnight transformation.

In fact, I started working on that change forever ago. But I guess I didn’t realize how dramatically different my life has become since then.

See, if you didn’t know already, yesterday I posted the news that Matt and I got engaged. I am still on cloud nine. (You can read about it here if you are interested.)

Ever since I shared the news of my engagement, I’ve been overwhelmed with so much love from the people in my life. Seriously.  I’ve been getting so many beautiful messages from people congratulating me and sharing in the happy moment. I just want to say thank you to all of you.

But there’s a pattern in the wonderful “congratulations” I am getting from people who know me. A lot of people are saying the same thing:

“You have been through so much, and you totally deserve this happiness.”

What’s obvious to me is that we all deserve to be happy in life.

But I guess the shocking part was realizing that yes, I have been through a lot.

And I guess I didn’t realize it until other people brought it up to me.

Getting engaged is always emotional… but reflecting on my past and how far I have come in my life made it even more emotional compelling.

 

Your words have got me reflecting on my life yo!

And now I am all emotional. Because as  happy as my life is now, my life used to be COMPLETELY the opposite of this years ago.

And I need to talk about it.

Because if I can overcome everything I have in my life, I want to use it to show other people in this world that whatever they are going through – they can overcome it too.

…. and I guess that’s why I’m feeling so appreciative of where I am today.

It seems crazy to think that the person I once was is actually the same person I am today. Really… It’s nuts. I changed my life in a major way. And it all started with self love.

I am a rape victim. A former suicide attempter. A previous mentally ill diagnosed girl who basically believed life was always going to be shitty.

I was depressed, hopeless and alone.

But I am not that person anymore. And it’s crazy to think about.

Even writing those words out in this post feels strange to me. Because today I am a person that is confident, full of joy, happy and inspired to live an amazing life.

I changed my life in a way that I never thought was possible. And if I can do that, you can too.

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Getting engaged didn’t do this to me. I did this to me.

I changed my life by learning how to love myself… and this engagement just reminds me of how far I have come. It is such a celebration in so many ways.

And so I decided I had something to say about it.  Because if it wasn’t for where I started, I would have never ended up here, happy, appreciative of my life, and so dedicated to helping women transform their lives.

I just couldn’t put it into words for an article. Words were not enough. So I made this video instead.


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September Goals! & Free Calendar Guides!

September Goals! & Free Calendar Guides!

Before the beginning of every month, I ask myself this very important question: What can I do to feel more awesome and happy? It’s around this day every month that I take out a notebook, shut off the television and snuggle on the bed with nothing but my thoughts and my ambitions to reflect on. Setting goals every month gets me feeling like I have something to look forward to – something to go after – something to try and strive for. It may seem silly to be asking myself the question “What can I do to feel more awesome and happy” every 30 days or so, but the truth is that I sort of need to do that for my mental sanity! Setting goals makes me feel awesome! Like my life is always improving, growing and changing.

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How I Set My Goals

I’ve talked a lot about healthy goal setting on the blog because it is really so important to not only get crystal clear about what you want for your life, but to also make sure that you are going after certain things that are actually fulfilling, satisfying and diverse. So here’s what I do to make sure my goals are healthy:

Keep Things Diverse: I make sure that I have one of the following on my list: A Relationships Goal (family, friends, loved ones etc.) A Healthy Lifestyle Goal (career, weight-loss or fitness) and a Self Love Goal (time to myself, things I want to accomplish for fun, stuff like that.) Having multiple goals that aren’t all focused on one area of my life makes things much easier for me. You can check out my calendar guide for free and get access to your own chart for keeping track of your three goals this month!

Keep It Simple and Specific: I Keep my list short, and make sure that everything I want to achieve is simple, specific and realistic. It needs to be doable within 30 days and it needs to be something I have control over – no one else.

Have an Emotion Attached to Every Goal: I try to add some sort of emotional term or language to my list when I set goals.. If my relationship goal is to go out on more dates, I want to make sure my goal really is “Go out on more dates with my guy and feel more connected and satisfied with our relationship.” Without the emotional idea attached to it, there is really no point in achieving that right?

 

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My Goals This Month

Here’s a peak of what I am trying to strive for this month.

Relationship Goal: To Make More memories, get out and be more active with Matt (he recently had surgery so I am excited for this new change) and to feel happy and in love more frequently in our relationship.

My Healthy Lifestyle Goal: I want to focus on my running this month and hold myself accountable to a set half marathon running schedule I created. I am hoping to feel healthy and more strong than ever before.

My Self Love Goal: This month, I really want to focus on being more comfortable going out and spending time by myself.. I want to make more memories by doing things and exploring my new town and not being afraid to do it on my own.

 

 

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GRAB YOUR FREE SEPTEMBER CALENDAR GUIDES FROM WIP!

Every month as part of the Perfection Program, I offer everyone a free Calendar Guide for self improvement. Each day there is a challenge assignment for you to feel a little more happy and confident in who you are. Print out the Calendar, hang it on your fridge and start going after a more confident life! There is also a new Calendar as part of the program, where you can list and keep track of your three big goals this month! Come grab them here by submitting your email address and get instant free access to both calendar guides! Start brainstorming and get excited for your new amazing month! September is here!!

 

 

 

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The July Self Love Calendar!

The July Self Love Calendar!

Welcome to July Ladies!! The second summery month of the season is fast approaching, and I’m super excited for it. For some reason, July reminds me of all that is beautiful – birds chirping, fun in the sun and just a happy positive vibe that cannot be messed with.

So with that, the theme of July’s calendar for the Perfection Program is all about feeling beautiful ! Each day we are taking small steps to feel a little more beautiful and better about who we are. Come follow along and share your progress with us on Social media! #PerfectionProgram!!

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An awesome section of What is Perfection that gives you unlimited access to 20+ E-Guides and Self Improvement worksheets that kick start your journey, helping you set goals, create healthy habits, organize your time and more! Every important topic is covered Relationships, Confidence, Body Image, Healthy Lifestyles, and Time Management Oh… and Beauty Care Tips and Tricks too? Because what’s a life without feeling beautiful?

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Congratulations to Our Girls! Welcome to the Program!

Congratulations to Our Girls! Welcome to the Program!

Oh Em Gee You Guys and Girls. Gabby and I are so excited to be announcing this month’s list of accepted Perfection Programers!!!! Today is the day that we announce who we picked for the Perfection Program… the amazing life program that will completely transform your confidence.

If you don’t know how it works, you can check out the Perfection Program details page on the Blog… Each month we are going to be carefully selecting a group of girls to coach one on one… the program involves a 30 day crash course, access to the online members only community, the challenge group and more.

Oh.. and each girl accepted into the program gets a choice of products from our beautiful bundle package selection.. like this one:

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So… Today, I am happy to announce our coaching group for June! Get ready girls.. it is going to be AMAZING. So on with our amazing Announcement!!

Here it is!!! Welcome to the program girls! Check your email for all the info about the program and how to get registered. You have one week to sign up and create your account. WE are so so excited for all of you!!!

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Gabby and I love you all. And seriously cannot wait to change your lives! It is going to be AMAZING!

 

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