20 Ways to Feel Happy RIGHT NOW.

20 Ways to Feel Happy RIGHT NOW.

Have you ever gotten stuck in a rut? Maybe felt a little crummy for no reason? It happens to all of us. My boyfriend and I like to call this “the heeby geebies.” It’s that weird feeling in your tummy where you just feel a little “off” for some weird reason. It’s that icky feeling you can’t seem to shake. And guess what?  Even the happiest people in the world experience those negative vibes from time to time. It happens to me too! That’s why I always have a special list of things I can do to quickly change my state. A “Happy Go Lucky” list. Coming up with s simple strategy for how to feel happier is pretty easy. And that’s what I’m talking about today!

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How to Feel Happier

When I started my self love journey, my main priority was to grow my overall happiness. Coming from a place where I spent most of my time feeling super depressed, I knew that feeling happy was my main goal.

But it took me a long time to achieve it. Sucks doesn’t it?

Learning how to feel happier when you feel miserable is a super hard thing to do. It’s like landing yourself in a foreign country and trying to speak a whole new language.

It took me years to learn how to feel happier, because I never knew how important self love and confidence were. But I got there! And now I coach other girls who to find that same sense of worth and confidence in my intensive 30 day  Perfection Program.

But let’s face it, I’m human. And every once and a while, sadness still gets the best of me. And it’s usually unexpected. Sometimes it’s that week of the month, or sometimes it’s just a lack of sleep. Other days, I can feel a little “off” or “overwhelmed” and in need of some extra happiness.

The How to Feel Happier List

If you are ever feeling down or like “happy” isn’t a possibility, just remember that changing your state can happen in an instant! A while back I created a go-to list of “to-do’s” for how to feel happier. I have this list in my back pocket whenever I need a quick state change. Because no matter what the cause of my funky mood is, there is always something I can do to change it.

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My How to Feel Happier List

So today I want to share my list with you! These are little things I can do to quickly change my attitude and get back into my “positive place.”

Keep in mind, everyone’s list is different. We all have different passions, interests and hobbies. That’s why it’s important to make your own “how to be happier” list.

But if you need some inspiration, here’s mine:

checkmarkGo for a walk outside and think of all the things I am truly grateful for. (walking meditation rocks!) Getting outside is the best for feeling amazing and changing your state. See my post about it!

checkmarkGet your nails done or have an at home manicure sesh ! I love turning up the music and just relaxing with a nice mani pedi at home!

checkmarkHave an At Home Spa Day! See my post and get the free guide for having one in your own home!

checkmarkPut the music on and dance. Just 5 minutes can totally change your attitude into fun and positive

checkmarkSet some time aside for some journaling. Journal prompts are a great way to reflect and start feeling happy. Think positive when you write!

checkmarkSing a song

checkmarkWatch an old disney movie that made you smile when you were young

checkmarkDo a detox scrub on your skin or try dry brushing ! It’s a great way to release toxins and get out all that bad energy.

checkmarkHave a 20 minute detox bath. This one is my favorite. I think I’m doing it today.

checkmarkHave a workout session at the gym.

checkmarkGo through old photos of you with friends and family

checkmarkMake a vision board

checkmarkTry meditation! I love it with some calm relaxing oil scents. It makes my meditation that much better when it smells awesome.

checkmarkTry Coloring Therapy ! It’s amazing.

checkmarkWrite a letter to someone you love telling them why they are awesome. Showing love is the best way to feel loved and happy.

checkmarkRead a book! Set some quiet time for yourself and read a book that will take you out of your thoughts and into a new story!

checkmarkClean ! For some reason, cleaning can be super relaxing if you find something that you know will make you feel great when its all organized and pretty!

checkmarkGo shopping! I of course am guilty of doing this a little too often.. but sometimes a little shopping trip can boost my energy

checkmarkIf you are on the go, try downloading an E book, or a song that boost your spirits and listening on the go! It definitely changes my state.

checkmarkTry Gratitude: In your head, make a list of all the things you are grateful for. I find this really helps. Practicing gratitude out loud is a great way for feeling happy.

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Why I Choose to Be Different.

Why I Choose to Be Different.

I am different. Let’s face it. There is no way around it.

Some people would call me weird. But I don’t care. Actually, I love it.

Because I don’t exactly follow the “rules of life” by the book. And I am so much better for that.

I am the person who needs to learn lessons the hard way.

The girl who constantly felt like she didn’t belong.

I am no longer living my life doing what everyone else is doing just because everyone else is doing it.

That’s not enough for me. And I am so glad it isn’t.

I choose to be myself. And I don’t do that in spite of my differences. I actually do it because I am different. It is something I am truly proud of.

And while it did take me a while to accept my uniqueness- Today I am in a place where I am so proud of it. And I wouldn’t want to be any other way.

So if you’re that girl struggling to accept the fact that she is a little bit unlike the people around her – I am here to tell you this:

“Stop trying to be like everyone else. Embrace your unique bad ass self girl.”

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I am Different: But So Are You.

For a very long time, I spent almost all of my energy trying to live my life by everyone else’s standards. And it sucked. I wanted to look as beautiful as the people around me. I wanted to be as smart as the people in my class and the mentors I had for my career. And yes, I even tried to do things to be just as cool and “accepted” as the people around me.

That life sucked. So much.

Because what the heck is life about if not to enjoy it? And you can’t possibly enjoy your own life when you spend so much time trying to make it like everyone else’s.

At some point I realized that being unique was wonderful. And embracing the fact that I am different has allowed me to do so much more with my life.

I get to be myself, live by my own standards and actually feel confident about the person I am.

I can actually go after certain dreams that I know make me happy. I actually feel more fulfilled in my life because I live it being true to myself. And I just feel happier all around.

I want that for everyone in the world. Because once I accepted and embraced the fact that I was different, I stopped trying to live for other people and started trying to live for myself.

 

How to Love Your “I am Different” Self

If I could break it down – how I learned to love the fact that I am different – my list of advice tips would probably look like this:

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-Get honest about who you are. Try reading my post about being authentic.

-Stop trying to do certain things for your life just to make other people proud.

-Give up pretending and holding back your opinion and start being vocal about your own thoughts. Speak your mind!

-Start thinking for yourself.

-Stop asking what the people want or think.

-Start asking what will make you feel happy and fulfilled.

-Let go of the thought of what other people think (get my free worksheet on learning how to let go of that if you need help)

-Let go of friends who don’t serve you (again if you need tips on this you should check it out here)

-Build your confidence by embracing the things that make you different.

-Practice self love.

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Finding Happiness Because “I am Different”

The happiness you experience when you embrace your uniqueness is way more amazing than any pretend  happiness that could possibly come from trying to live up to other people’s standards.

This is why personal development, self confidence building, and self esteem techniques are so super important to your over all life.

If you feel ready to make that big bold step for yourself and start redefining your life, then stop right here.

And check out the Perfection Program. This course can transform your worth and your confidence (not to mention your life.) All from the inside out!

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I Can’t Believe It Sometimes…

I Can’t Believe It Sometimes…

I changed my life. And not just in a small “little change”ing sort of way. I changed my life in a big fantastic amazing bad ass wonderful way. That even still surprises me.

Like WOAH.

But it didn’t happen over night.

How do I sum it up?

Basically I went from being a completely lost human-being with zero self worth and tons of messed up life issues to being a person I am truly proud of.

Yeah. Big. But not an overnight transformation.

In fact, I started working on that change forever ago. But I guess I didn’t realize how dramatically different my life has become since then.

See, if you didn’t know already, yesterday I posted the news that Matt and I got engaged. I am still on cloud nine. (You can read about it here if you are interested.)

Ever since I shared the news of my engagement, I’ve been overwhelmed with so much love from the people in my life. Seriously.  I’ve been getting so many beautiful messages from people congratulating me and sharing in the happy moment. I just want to say thank you to all of you.

But there’s a pattern in the wonderful “congratulations” I am getting from people who know me. A lot of people are saying the same thing:

“You have been through so much, and you totally deserve this happiness.”

What’s obvious to me is that we all deserve to be happy in life.

But I guess the shocking part was realizing that yes, I have been through a lot.

And I guess I didn’t realize it until other people brought it up to me.

Getting engaged is always emotional… but reflecting on my past and how far I have come in my life made it even more emotional compelling.

 

Your words have got me reflecting on my life yo!

And now I am all emotional. Because as  happy as my life is now, my life used to be COMPLETELY the opposite of this years ago.

And I need to talk about it.

Because if I can overcome everything I have in my life, I want to use it to show other people in this world that whatever they are going through – they can overcome it too.

…. and I guess that’s why I’m feeling so appreciative of where I am today.

It seems crazy to think that the person I once was is actually the same person I am today. Really… It’s nuts. I changed my life in a major way. And it all started with self love.

I am a rape victim. A former suicide attempter. A previous mentally ill diagnosed girl who basically believed life was always going to be shitty.

I was depressed, hopeless and alone.

But I am not that person anymore. And it’s crazy to think about.

Even writing those words out in this post feels strange to me. Because today I am a person that is confident, full of joy, happy and inspired to live an amazing life.

I changed my life in a way that I never thought was possible. And if I can do that, you can too.

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Getting engaged didn’t do this to me. I did this to me.

I changed my life by learning how to love myself… and this engagement just reminds me of how far I have come. It is such a celebration in so many ways.

And so I decided I had something to say about it.  Because if it wasn’t for where I started, I would have never ended up here, happy, appreciative of my life, and so dedicated to helping women transform their lives.

I just couldn’t put it into words for an article. Words were not enough. So I made this video instead.


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How I Found My Inner Strength

How I Found My Inner Strength

I wasn’t always a strong woman. In fact, some days, even now, being confident and brave is still challenging. I’ve been through a lot of messy terrible experiences that made finding inner strength a very long journey.

In fact, if you put it all on paper – the story of the girl I once was – it would seem impossible to imagine that girl would possess  any confidence at all today. But believe it or not, I do.

My inner strength isn’t just a part of me: It’s what drives me every single day to make better choices and to live a higher quality life than I used to.

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See that picture? It’s a scary image don’t you think? Well, you may think so, but to me it is beautiful. I bought it at a school art show. At the time, I was only 17 years old. And I felt completely lost in my life. I remember seeing this picture in the hallway ay high school and being completely overwhelmed with emotion that I cried.

Ten years later, this picture is still inspiring me. Whenever I find myself struggling with a decision or a difficult experience, I can look at this picture and feel my inner strength pushing through.

This picture became a symbol of strength that carried me during some of the most difficult times in my life. It coined the phrase “What is Perfection,” that would become my first tattoo. Twelve years later, it would inspire this blog and my self improvement company that bears the name.

When I think back to the girl I was when I first saw this picture, I can’t even relate to her. She was weak, lost, insecure and alone. Somewhere between then and now I found my inner strength. And after everything I have been through – if I can do that, you can too.

 

How I Found My Inner Strength

It isn’t easy to pinpoint the moment everything changed in my life. For a very long time I played the victim of my own identity. When bad things happened to me I would tell myself that my life was meant to be sad and miserable. And I was convinced that I had no ability to change it. When traumatic things happened in my life, I interpreted them in a negative way. I saw my experiences as reason to discredit my moral beliefs: The world wasn’t full of love like I thought it was. It was full of hate.

And slowly my self worth dissipated. Because time and time again I was left hurt and broken by other people. “You are worthless,” I would tell myself.

To be a strong independent person is to say you possess the resources, the mentality and the physical capability to overcome difficulty. You have the moral and intellectual ability to overcome tough times without becoming jaded or bankrupt of your own values and beliefs.

I was never really any of those things. Until I had to be.

Flash forward to when I was 22. I had an unhealthy marriage, and was still lacking confidence and inner strength. My heart was telling me to walk away from my relationship. I knew it was wrong for me, but I felt scared. I didn’t really have anyone who supported me back then. And I knew that if I was going to make the decision to walk away, I was going to have to do it on my own.

So I did.

This is the best way I can describe how I found my inner strength: I made a decision that forced me to find it. I made a choice for my own life with no one else to guiding me. The minute I did that, a flicker of my inner strength appeared. It was like a light bulb turned on in the middle of a very dark world.  I could see the light in the distance for a little while, and then it flickered off again.

After that big decision, I had to trust my instincts. I had to guide myself through the dark and head towards where I thought that light of inner strength lived. Every time I walked closer and closer, the light would flicker again as a reminder that I was heading in the right direction.

Eventually, I would reach it, grab it, and hold on to it for the rest of my life.

That is how you find inner strength.

You make a big decision for yourself independently. You start to trust your gut and listen to your heart. The more decisions you make for yourself, the closer you will get to that light of inner strength. You just need to keep pushing through the dark.

If you are looking to find your inner strength, you need to first take a leap of faith in the darkness. You need to believe in yourself, even just a little bit. So find the courage to make a decision for yourself.

Once you do, everything changes.

Need help finding your own inner strength? Read more tips on how to over come adversity here.

Want to overcome fear? Come check out this post on learning how to let go of fear.

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How to Stop Being Insecure

How to Stop Being Insecure

As a life coach, I am constantly being asked this question, and today I want to answer it. Because learning how to stop being insecure is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. But reality check: It’s also one of the hardest things to do, right?

If you’re the girl struggling to feel good about yourself, well guess what. I’m going to help you change that. So let’s dive into my simple tips for learning how to stop being insecure.

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Insecurities and Your Self-Esteem

Before I found my self confidence and learned how to stop being insecure, I swear, I hated everything about myself. I was constantly nitpicking my physical appearance – like my outfits and the shape of my body – because I hated how I looked. Also, it was hard to feel good about myself when I achieved things like getting a good job or good grades. I was constantly thinking “I need to do better.”

I thought that I needed to change things about myself to feel good, but really, the only thing I needed to change was my attitude and how I perceived myself. So I did. Once I started practicing these simple steps for learning how to stop being insecure, and over time, things changed.

 

Steps for Learning How to Stop Being Insecure

1. Don’t deny your insecurity. When you aren’t feeling good about yourself, your first gut instinct is probably to fight it. “I want this feeling to just go away!” is probably a common thought you have from time to time. But when you ignore your insecurity or try to stuff it down and pretend it isn’t there, it always makes things worse.

2. Embrace your insecurity. This may seem silly, but it’s an important part of learning how to stop being insecure. Recognize your insecurity, whatever it is, and try to accept it as a beautiful part of who you are. “I am insecure about my acne, and that’s okay because I’m just a normal human being. And everyone is insecure about something, right?” Read my post titled “I am insecure” if you want to know more about this.

3. Practice self love affirmations and journal reflections. A big part of what I do as a self improvement coach and self-confidence leader is teaching other woman personal development techniques for living a happy life. There a ton of journaling ideas and worksheets for building your self worth. Every day spend a little time journaling about what you love about yourself, what makes you special and what you are most proud of.  Check out this post on daily journal prompts for growing self confidence if you need ideas.

4. Avoid people who make you feel insecure. This is a big important one guys. As emotional beings, we can really easily feed off the vibes of others. If you negative people in your life who constantly make you feel “less than,” then it may be time to find other people to share your life with. Find a healthy support system to lift you up and make you feel good. I recommend taking some time reflecting on the people you share your life with and slowly start weeding out the people who you have unhealthy relationships with. By pushing out the negative influencers, you will have more room for happy people who help you grow your self confidence.

5. Invest in yourself and make a change. One of my favorite quotes out there is “nothing changes if nothing changes.” If you are constantly trying to learn how to stop being insecure but feel stuck in your progress, it may be time to take a step out of the box and hire a life coach. There are a ton of phony’s out there so steer clear of anything that sounds too good to be true. Do your research and find a self improvement program or course that targets self confidence and self image. I highly recommend that you check out my online course for growing self confidence. It’s called the Perfection Program. I’ve coached hundreds of women on amazing life transformation journeys. If you feel ready to change your life, go check it out.

 

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