A Thought on Money Mindset and Abundance

A Thought on Money Mindset and Abundance

Let’s talk about what it means to live a happy life + be successful.
Lately, this topic is coming up soooooooo much lately. Probably because I have so many new life coaching clients on my plate, and a lot of them are longing for that happiness and success they believe they can create.
No duh they can create it. I mean, we all can. The problem is that most of us are just trying to create it the wrong way.
I used to be pretty stubborn about this too.
Take me before my transformation as an example:
I wanted things in my physical world because I believed that once I got them, then I would be happy. And I was working pretty damn hard to try and get these things.
A better body
More money
A better love life
Basically a better everything (because life was pretty terrible back then.)
So yeah…. I set goals in all of these areas like a crazy goal setting list making nerd.
I was so stuck in all of these areas, but the worst of them was my financial situation. I knew of all these areas, I needed to work on my financial situation the most.
I could not make the money I wanted to make. So I decided to work harder at it (mistake number one. )
In an effort to change my life, I spent almost all of my energy wrapping my head around how to make more money, how to be a better business owner — Nothing followed suit. My financial situation stayed the same.
At some point I stopped being stubborn and I shifted into receiving everything I wanted.
A while back I needed to do some work on this myself and shift of the mindset of “money is scarce.” I spent months doing inner work on what money meant to me, what worth meant to me, and what I believed was success. I literally sat there in my meditation room with a journal for days rewriting my narrative of life around these topics.
I did the inner work, and then boom. Suddenly I opened up to receive so much more in my life.
 
So let’s talk about this: Because I think a lot of people out there screw this up.
 
We do not attract what we want. We attract who we are.
 
If you want to be successful, you need to create a mindset of success and wealth first.
 
If you want to be healthy and happy in your body and your physical life, you first need to be healthy and happy in your mind.
 
So many people out there are doing things ass backwards. They try to change their physical world thinking, “okay, once I do this, then everything will be cool in my life, and I’ll finally be happy.”
 
um. Sorry. No babe.
 
I love you. But no.
 
Here are my tips for quickly shifting into an inspired state and shifting out of this mindset.
 
1. Think the thoughts aligned with what it is you want in your life. (what type of thoughts will I feel and believe when I reach this goal of mine?)
2. Be that person you imagine you will be when you already reach that goal. (journal about this – what does she do, how does she act – what are her values in life?)
3. Create absolute faith that what you want will happen. Go beyond the world of what you see in your present life and step into a place of certainty that no matter what you want you will achieve it.
4. Continuously be growing, expanding and evolving your education and knowledge about what it is you want to achieve. (no matter what.)

My Meditation Corner Pt. 2

My Meditation Corner Pt. 2

Guys I feel like I’m nesting a baby in this room lately. Except it’s my soul – not an infant I’m preparing for.

Gosh that sounds cheesy. But no for real, there is something about my meditation corner that just makes me feel so incredibly inspired, blessed and at peace. A while back I shared with you some of the decorating I was doing in my meditation room in this post here.

But today I wanted to give you an update – since somethings have changed!

Do you need help picking out meditation tools? Check out this post. I break down all my favorite meditation must haves for my practice. I love using essential oils, crystals, prayer cards and mala beads!

This corner is my newest addition to my meditation space. I found myself sitting in my recliner seat journaling and facing the fire place with this big open space of nothing over here – and it drove me nuts. “I need to create something in this space!” So I went out and bought a book shelf and started building my personal development library!

I have a TON of books – but I decided this shelf would be just for my personal development collection. I just finished The Art of Living by Bob Proctor and it was so good! I’m going to his event in California in October. Btw. He has over 1,000 books in his personal development library! I have a lot of catching up to do!

Of course I have buddha and zen decor everywhere. This beautiful pearl head releases Lavender essential oil and makes the room smell amazing!  I got it from Homegoods.

And of course, I have my crystals everywhere. This is Chrysocolla & Druzy a rare form of my favorite stone to work with lately. I had to snag it when I saw it in the crystal shop this week!

And of course, my meditation room is not complete with out my salt lamp, money tree and Chakra balancing Candles. I love it. I love it so much. I could probably spend the rest of my life in this space and be happy!

 

I hope this post inspires you to go out and create your own little meditation corner or space in your home.

xoxox

A Recap of Amazing Journal Ideas

A Recap of Amazing Journal Ideas

Hi Guys! Been quite a while since I’ve been on here hasn’t it? I have been so busy not being busy lately – aka relaxing, enjoying my zen weekends and just really grounding myself regularly. Now I am back, feeling strong and ready to rock!

So much has been happening in the WIP Tribe. This week we are running an amazing five day Manifest Confidence Challenge in a separate private group. There are 53 awesome rockstars in there kicking butt and getting ready to manifest their dreams. It’s such a transformative space, I love the energy of the group.

But in the tribe, one of the things we are always focusing on (especially if you’re in the Manifest Confidence Challenge Group) is journaling. Journaling is really, really important. I would say it is probably number two on my list of healthy things I must do every day. – second to drinking water.

So yesterday in the tribe I posed this:

Hey WIP Tribe! This evening our Manifest Confidence Challengers are doing some deep reflection with a homework assignment and it had me feeling inspired to jump into the tribe and share some thoughts with you –

Journaling is literally the biggest game changer for me.

When someone asks me “What’s the one thing you suggest to someone trying to get happy or improve their life,” I always say Journaling. It is what saved my life.

So, A lot of people journal different ways – Some people write about how their day goes, other people journal poems or stories or little pieces of creative art.

I like to focus on Manifesting Journaling. I use my journal to dream about the future, set new goals, start brainstorming big changes and asking the universe for help and guidance.

I try to do it every day. How do you guys journal? Do you find yourself going with the flow or do you use journal prompts?

I was so surprised that so many of the girls in the group had a hard time finding the inspiration to actually get those juices flowing. So today I wanted to take some time to share some of my journaling posts from the past!  Think you’ll love them!

Daily Note Taking: When I journal – I always do it a different way. (There is no right or wrong way to get those thoughts out girl!) One of the ways I notice a lot of people journaling is the “How my day went” log. You know – this happened, then this happened, and then this happened. To me, that isn’t really what I use my journal for. Thats more like diary writing. Sure if something major happens in my day and I want to celebrate it I certainly write about it, but I do more with my book than just log events.

Self Love Journaling: Self Love journaling is one of my favorite ways to journal. Daily journal prompts are positive questions that help you reflect on your identity and grow your confidence. They are a series of important questions related to happiness and confidence that help you rediscover who you are and what makes you YOU. Because by asking yourself the right questions and taking time to reflect on “why makes you you,” it’s easy to grow your self love.

Click here to get the free self love journal PDF Guide

Gratitude Journaling: Gratitude Journaling is also one of my go to favorites. I actually make it a part of my routine where every night I write out a list of three things I am grateful for that happened that day. Positive questions will help you retrain your brain to think differently about yourself and about your life. Make sure those questions are emotionally charged and phrased in a way that you are forced to think of the positive.

Goal Setting Journaling: I love love love this type of journaling just because it helps me get so crystal clear about my dreams. When I know I want something for my future, but I have a hard time feeling like it is actually possible (aka because its a big goal or its going to be a lot of work to get there) I write out a list of what it is I Want and all the reasons why I want it. Then I jump into a goal setting strategy by getting specific about my goal and breaking down how I am going to get there. It’s called “reverse engineering” your goals. And it works! Oh. There’s a free guide for that too!

Well Those three guides will definitely get you started no matter how stuck you feel or how hard of a time you have journaling. I hope you guys all enjoy them! Let me know if you have any questions <3

My Meditation “Must Haves”

My Meditation “Must Haves”

Hi Y’all! So sorry this post took me longer to create than I expected. Life gets in the way sometimes! So earlier this week I posted the story on how I decorated my meditation corner – and I gave you guys some free tips for how you can create your own safe space meditation corner yourselves! I loved that post so much and you all seemed to love it too, that I thought I would follow it up with a second post sharing some of the tools I use for my meditation practice!

 

First off, let me just be clear – everyone’s practice is different. And second – you don’t actually need anything to meditate or start your own meditation routine. For me though, I find using tools to bring me down into my zen zone actually helps me. It enhances the experience and it lets me step into that “present state” quicker. So here’s what I do every morning in my mediation corner….

 

FIRST I LIGHT MY CANDLES 

I am really big into symbolism in my practice, so lighting the candle for me means that I am ready to open my heart and step into that surrender state of tranquility. I love these from Chesapeake Bay because it adds some variety to my practice. It allows me to decide what emotion I am longing for and then boom – I light it, set an intention and then move on. You can check out their line here:  Chesapeake Bay Candle Mind & Body Collection Medium Jar Candle, Balance + Harmony I absolutely love their scents. They are all fresh, pure and calming. These two are my favorite.

THEN I SET AN INTENTION FOR MY PRACTICE 

For me, I am always focused on gratitude. This sign that hangs in my meditation room is just a reminder to me that feeling grateful can open up the doors to so much more in my life. So no matter what I am dealing with in my life, I always try to remind myself before I go into meditation that gratitude is key. If you’re looking for a gratitude reminder, I got this one at Target, but this gorgeous one on amazon is my favorite –> There is always something to be grateful for Print 


SOMETIMES I ENHANCE THE MOOD WITH OILS 

If I am craving energy or wake up extra tired than usual, I sometimes take things up a notch and diffuse some grapefruit or lemon oil. I find Grapefruit helps me feel confident and clear and the Lemon gives me that zesty energy I am hungry for on those off days. If you are looking for an oil company to go with I always recommend Young Living or DoTERRA. Both are amazing.

CRYSTALS, MINERALS AND MALA BEADS

Okay guys.. here’s a big one – and there is post about this coming soon on the blog. I am obsessed with Crystals. It’s my new thing. And I ma slowly building my collection. I carefully picked out some stones that spoke to me when I went shopping last week, and I can’t wait to go back and buy more. But when I meditate I hold some in my right hand since the right hand is my receiving energy hand (I am left handed and naturally receive in my right) and I wrap Mala beads around my left  hand during my actual meditation practice. Mala Beads have roots in Buddhism and I’ll def be doing a post on those soon and why they are important to use and incorporate into your spiritual practice. But for now, if you want to grab some for yourself, this style is my favorite. These are so beautiful to me. —-> Menton Ezil Elastic 3mm Tibetan Buddhist Amulets Retro Wrist Mala Wrap Beads Stones Bracelet Necklace 

I MEDITATE

Anywhere from 15 to 45 minutes depending on what I need. I close my eyes and put in headphones to drown out the noise. Sometimes I do an unguided practice where I just sit there in the silence and try to shut off my mind. Other days I go through youtube and search “meditation for —-” whatever I need that day. Once I open my eyes I surrender and thank the universe for the experience and then flip some cards.

MY I AM DEDICATION CARDS 

My best friend Heather got me this gorgeous set of I AM cards, every card is beautiful designed with an inspirational message of what you are that day. I shuffle the cards and then randomly pick one. For some reason – the universe always sends me a card that I need that day. You can find I AM Cards all over the place, but This pack is so special to me of course – thanks  Heather! They were designed by Loren Slocum Lahav and you can buy them in her shop here —> Her Online Shop 

FINALLY, MY FEMININE ENERGY CARDS 

I am really strong in my masculine energy, having been a hustler in the Television industry for quite a while, it is really hard for me to go with the flow and relax when I need to. A while back the awesome beautiful Kris Britton recommended these Oracle Cards and I instantly rushed to grab them. There is a different Goddess on each card and I randomly pick one every morning to inspire me and lead me on my mission. There’s a CRAZY story about these cards that I can’t wait to share in another post – but for now, go buy a pack here if you want —> Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards

More in my next post! Hope you enjoyed these tips and suggestions for meditating!

APRIL’S BOOK OF THE MONTH! YOU ARE A BADASS!

APRIL’S BOOK OF THE MONTH! YOU ARE A BADASS!

The self-help section of Barnes and Noble is my happy place. It’s especially awesome when I need a big pick me up and state change. I just get in my car, stop at the starbucks cafe for a latte and then meander around in search for a new self improvement gem that will change my life. Sometimes it’s hard to make a decision. There are so many to choose from! But when I saw You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero, I was pretty much sold on the idea that THIS would be my next book.

And I read it in like… two days. I devoured it. And then when I was done, I read it again.

It was that amazing.

So Guess what I decided to pick for April’s book of the month? YUP….. YOU GUESSED IT.

You are a bad Ass.

Because “You are a Badass”is badass.  Seriously, with a name like that, how could you not feel inspired?!

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You Are A Badass – By Jen Sincero

When I picked up the book, the cover seemed too good to be true: “How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life.”

Yeah… okay. Doubt much?

But the minute I started reading it I fell in love. It’s the real deal guys.

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Why The You Are A Badass Book is Truly Bad-Ass

You will develop a great understanding of ego. If you’re unfamiliar with the term Ego and what it means for your personal development, don’t sweat it.  You Are A Bad Ass by Jen Sincero will give you a great introduction on Ego. You’ll learn what it is and how it effects your happiness. But in case you’re curious, I’ll clue you in. Ego, or “the Big Snooze,” as Sincero calls it,  is that voice of self doubt in your head that holds you back from actually becoming the person you truly are meant to be. It’s that little person talking to you telling you to be afraid of going after the things you want to accomplish in life.

You will discover what exactly is holding you back from happiness. Once you understand your ego, aka your own “big snooze,” you will quickly uncover the root of your problems. If you have limiting beliefs like, “other people control my life,” or “I cannot have the life I want,” this book will help you completely dismiss those ideas and help you create new ones. Sincero really dives deep into self perception and helps you understand exactly how to change your beliefs so you can get what you want in life.

Other Awesome Things You’ll Learn when You Read You Are A Badass

You’ll totally grow your self love. You are a Badass is totally 100 percent focused on helping you grow your self love. It is literally the foundation of this book. And that’s a really good thing. Because you cannot accomplish anything in your life (like finding happiness) if you don’t learn to love yourself first. In order to go after your dreams, you need to believe that you can accomplish them, and you need to start acting like you can and believing in yourself. You are a Badass shows you just how to do that ..

You’ll star taking more risks so you can be successful. Jen Sincero tells a great story about this in You are a Badass. She wanted to grow her financial status, but also needed a car. So she went out and bought the car of her dreams. She didn’t have the money for it at the time. But by purchasing that car, she pushed herself into a lifestyle she wanted. Because of her big crazy purchase, she became determined to actually create the life she wanted for herself. Jen Sincero is a rockstar. She really shows you that it is okay to take a big leap of faith; especially  when you are trying to accomplish big things. If you go after your goals with tenacity, the universe will reward you.

Okay.. the end. I hope you’ve realized how amazing this book really is, and I hope you go out and grab it. Total game changer.

 

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK – Book Review Time!

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK – Book Review Time!

Ahhhhh Guys! Our first book club read is officially over and I am all teary eyed. It went by so fast! If you haven’t been following along, a bunch of us in the WIP Tribe have been reading our first self improvement book tother this month. And it was seriously such an honor.

I decided I wanted to kickstart our book club read with a big bang, so I went with the dangerously titled Mark Manson book – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

Sorry moms and dads… this one has a lot of foul language.

I originally picked up this book because A – I love curse words and B – I thought it would be perfect for my clients. SO many WIP Tribe Girls have a real obsession with worrying about what other people think, and I wanted to kick that fear and insecurity to the curb for them! Or at least, help them do it.

So here’s what I think of the book – and here’s what you need to know if you haven’t read it yet and are thinking about reading it.

First Thing you Need to know:

 The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is not a lesson plan for learning how to not care about your life goals. 

Honestly, I was so grateful and relieved that it wasn’t – or else I would kind of be contradicting myself as a coach by recommending this book! No. Actually, Mark Manson, from the start of the book does a really really god job explaining what demeans by “not caring.”  He says the secret to succeeding in life is not giving a Fuck about more, but rather, giving a fuck about less. What he means is, we are constantly overly obsessing over 15 million different areas of our life at once because we think we are “supposed to be.” When we get clear about what it is we really want in our life, we start to realize that our happiness isn’t actually wrapped into all the things we are supposed to be doing – rather, staying focused on a select few goals and dreams and trying our hardest to achieve them.

Mark Manson is Right – Half of us out there are trying to achieve things because we think we are supposed to. And that’s bullshit. 

Are you going after things like buying a house or a car or settling down and getting married to have kids just because you see other people doing it? I think actually, more like 90 percent of us out there are living based on what we think we should be doing, but we never stop to really ask ourselves “Is this what I really actually want to do?” This was an awesome lightbulb moment even for me as a coach – We have to listen to ourselves and not listen to other people.

The Feedback loop from hell. 

I love how Mark Manson goes into this concept through the book. Don’t know what the feedback loop from hell is? Let me explain: Here’s what happens – You see people on Facebook doing things and you think, “I should be doing that.” And then suddenly you start feeling anxious, stressed or depressed that you aren’t doing those things. “Why am I not doing what that person is doing?” you start to ask yourself. Then you notice you are anxious stressed and depressed and you start telling yourself, “OMG I shouldn’t feel this way!” And then you start beating yourself up for feeling anxious, stressed or depressed only to feel even MORE stressed, anxious and depressed. It’s a crazy feedback loop from hell. Here’s the solution: Simply stop giving a fuck. Focus on what you want and not what other people are doing or what other people are telling you that you should be doing.

Failure and Success are Arbitrary. 

There is really no such thing as either of those words. In fact, Failure and success are just made up terms we use as a reason to feel good or bad for ourselves. The people who “succeed” in life actually fail a MILLON times before achieving their goals. Honestly. You succeed once and you are “successful,” but what you don’t see is the fact that that person  had to fail a bajillion times to get where they are today. So being a failure is actually a good thing.

 

This Book Is Great For someone who…

Loves curse words.

Is constantly comparing themselves to people on social media.

Is feeling depressed sad or stuck in their life

Is scared of trying or living in fear constantly

Has no idea what decision he or she wants to make for themselves.

Wants to change and improve life but isn’t quite sure where to start.

Is sick and tired of feeling like absolute shit <3

Go check out the book!

Next up on the list for the book club? You have to join the tribe to find out!