Friends Suck and My House is a Mess – Unfiltered Fridays

Friends Suck and My House is a Mess – Unfiltered Fridays

I am so happy it is Friday! Not because I am a normal human who has a job she can’t wait to get a break from (seriously I love my job I can’t get enough of What is Perfection and the WIP Girls in my life.) To me, the fact it is Friday means that Matt will be off of work the next two days, and he can help me get our house one step closer to not being a total disaster.  And that makes me really excited.

Yes. Our house is a mess. And Yes it is driving me crazy.

Lately, my office area has become my little “clean space sanctuary.” It’s sort of my sanity room in the upstairs space of our house. Walking downstairs, I have to walk through the fire place room to get to my bedroom and that is in shambles right now. total shambles. The fireplace room.. not the bedroom.

We moved into our new home a month ago, and since then we have been taking on small redesign projects in the house. The fireplace room is our biggest challenge right now. But it is the most exciting project we have taken on yet. Because I’m obsessed with that space of the house.

The fireplace room is a gorgeous open high ceiling room that leads into our master bedroom. We call it the library room. It has these gorgeous built-in book shelves that I legit drooled over when we first saw the house. But it definitely needed some TLC and some serious redesigning. So here we are, taking on the challenge. We aren’t exactly Chip and Joanna Fixer Upper professionals here – but we are learning as we go! And it’s fun.

But seriously, the mess is killing me. Enough already. 

All my beautiful precious books are scattered all over the dusty floor and it makes me want to cry. I just love my books, and having a built in book shelf was a dream of mine ever since I saw Beauty and the Beast.  Who cares about the handsome man – I want a library full of bookshelves and a sliding ladder in my house!!

So here we are making it happen.

We are taking a big trip to Home Depot today to get the last minute things we need to hopefully complete the project this weekend. The homestretch of messiness is here!!! I see the light! 

But until it’s finished, I am cuddling up here in the organized office area.

I don’t know how I got this way, but I hate messy cluttered spaces. I feel like everything in a home should have a place, and my desk and work area is very much a reflection of that mindset. You can see more pictures of my desk space here in this post. Having an organized home makes me feel less stressed, more put together and very very proud of myself for some weird reason.

Don’t get me wrong if I come to your house and it’s looking like Hurricane Katrina hit it I won’t bat an eyelash. It seriously doesn’t bother me to be in a messy environment, it just bothers me when my own space is that way.

And boy.. It’s a total natural disaster up in here right now.

But sometimes you need to make things really messy in order to make them beautiful.

So as soon as that room is beautiful I’ll let you know 🙂 cross your fingers for a productive weekend!

Okay… so let’s get to the real raw and unfiltered messy talk that’s on my mind right now – the juicy stuff.

 

My Unfiltered Friday Thoughts

I’m obsessed with my podcast.

I am having so so much fun growing and pushing myself in my new podcast series The Imperfection in Me. If you don’t know about it, it’s my real raw and unfiltered life podcast where I share excerpts from past journal entries and the lessons we can all learn from them. New episodes air in Mondays and so far I got some real juiciness out there… I talk about the time I was raped, the year I ended up in a psych-ward and the journey of finding yourself in your 20s. It’s super fun, and super honest. And theres more coming.

As scary as it was to be so vulnerable and put myself out there – I am realizing that the more real you are – the better life gets. Go subscribe if you haven’t already! Seriously what are you waiting for. 

I’ve been wanting to start my podcast for a while, but kept putting it off. I was scared that the more real I was, the weirder I would be – and the less people would want to be my friend. How silly is that right? What a crazy limiting belief I was carrying around on my shoulders! The more open I am, the better life coach  I can be… and truthfully, the better relationships I have formed.

Because friendships seriously suck.

At least they used to for me. Let me explain.

I got a message from my friend Heather yesterday:

“I love how our friendship is growing and how we are helping each other to be better people. Why cant all friendships be like this?” 

(she’s probably shaking in her boots reading this right now)

Sorry to say it, but most friendships suck because  most women are fake. Most women aren’t real. A lot of ladies pretend to be something they are not because they are trying too hard to do things the way they are ‘supposed to’ rather than be their authentic selves.

“I don’t have to walk on eggshells when we talk. And I hate having to have a filter with people.” 

This really sunk in for me. – Oh my god. Heather is an amazing friend and I am so grateful for her.

And even more so after she said this. It got me really thinking – How many relationships have I had in my life where I was trying to “fit in” or “be something I wasn’t” just to please other people or be polite. How many fake friends have I had over the years?

Heather – thank you for this lightbulb moment. It was incredible. I am seriously so grateful for you.

The truth is I have been that girl with a lot of friends – and I hated the person I was back then. It’s hard to please the majority of the world and be happy at the same time. Living like a chameleon, constantly changing your personality to blend in with other people or certain environments is so uncomfortable… it may be easy to do in the beginning but you reach a point where you totally lose your identity and have no idea who the heck you are!

Looking back on friendships as I knew them before, I can see how much it sucked to live life that way. Heather and I have just formed this amazing friendship over time… and we did it just by being ourselves! That’s what a true friendship looks like. And that’s how we all should live. Being our true authentic selves and not trying to please other people.

 

So Here are some more authentic thoughts.

 

I seriously have to poop right now.

Kidding. Just wanted to set the tone for some real randomness right here.

All of my clothes have holes in them right now… and I am too busy to go shopping and buy new ones.

I work from home… don’t really care what I look like.. The only time anyone sees me really is during live coaching calls or Facebook videos. Which reminds me….

I ran out of eye concealer and I need to go buy more like yesterday.

Anyone have a favorite brand out there? I’ve been using urban decay lately and I love it.

I have a seriously unhealthy relationship with Money.

I don’t like talking about it… I don’t like spending it… I don’t like thinking about it. I just want to serve people and not have to come up with prices for my products and coaching plans… but I need to eat too… But why can’t I just date the monopoly man and not worry about it? I’m seriously working on this. Of all my life coaching skills, this is probably the thing I am working on the most right now – learning to be accepting of success and embracing abundance.

I make an active choice to NOT read the news. And I don’t care if you hate that.

It just doesn’t serve me to be so emotionally invested in what’s going on right now. So a while back I decided to shut it off and disconnect from the news world. It is a decision I have made for my life because I believed it would make me happier. And right now, that is what is serving me – focusing on my own mission. So if you want to talk Trump or politics I will listen to you express your feelings and be the shoulder to cry on but I won’t have much to contribute. #sorrynotsorry. I am choosing happiness and making a difference in the world my own way.

I’m reading my new favorite self improvement book for a second time right now.

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. In case you are interested.

I am obsessed with the girls who enrolled in this years Brand New Me Course.

I seriously love them to pieces. The are all amazing. (Waitlist is open for the March course now.)

I have to work out.

But I don’t want to work out. My pajamas are too comfortable right now. Seriously feeling the struggle right now.

I want a new tattoo… But I can’t make a decision.

Indecisiveness at it’s best.

I never let anything anyone else does or feels bother me. It is the best life practice ever.

If you are going to take any page out of my book – you should take that one.

xoxoxo

P.S. Random Thought Bonus: Did you see my little promo video? I’m kind of obsessed with it.

Happy Birthday to Me! My List of 28 Special Thoughts This Year.

Happy Birthday to Me! My List of 28 Special Thoughts This Year.

Happy birthday to me!!! YAY! Today, for the first time in a long time I actually don’t feel inspired to write on the website! So weird.. I feel like I am just really in the celebration mode! Ready to put on my little party dress and have fun enjoying my birthday.

Yes I am 28 today! Weeeeeeee!!!!

Last year I wrote this post: 27 Lessons about life to celebrate my special day.

So I thought I would write another one… Except….. not exactly the same.

28 Rambled thoughts from This Year

1-Work hard for what you want and never give up.

2-Other people really don’t know what is best for you. You are the expert in who you are.

3-Authenticitiy is really the best most powerful quality you have in life.

4-If you aren’t being true to yourself, you are failing yourself.

5-Appreciate love for what it is in this very moment right now in your life.. not what it could be in a few months or a few years.

6-Taking care of you should always be your number one priority.

7-I really love to curse.. and I don’t feel bad about it anymore. #sorrynotsorry.

8-Unicorns are super cool and so are mermaids.

9-I really really love the color blue.

10-Being yourself on camera and putting yourself out there is one of the scariest things, but also one of the most empowering things.

11-I love love love podcasts. It’s my new favorite thing.

12-Meditation in the silence is truly truly powerful.

13-When you find inner happiness, you never care what other people think of you. And that is amazing.

14-Money is a scary thing.. so is success — but Its something we need to embrace and see with love in order to get what we want.

15-I really really love our new home

16- I am so so grateful for everything I have in my life

17- This is us is an amazing television show.

18- Don’t ever lose track of your healthy lifestyle.. if it is important to you, don’t put it on the back burner to prioritize other things.

19- I am actually excited to Garden in the spring

20- I need to learn how to fall asleep to a show other than Family Guy.

21- Owning a home is the most fun thing ever.

22- I love my girls in the Facebook community… It was a new thing this year and it has been an incredible experience

23- Life is what you make it

24- The law of attraction is a serious real thing guys.

25- You have the power to create your future and turn it into everything you want it to be.

26- Rock bottom is amazing when you can look back and see how far you have come

27- I really really enjoy the creativity I have been feeling lately.

28- This year… I am going to write a book.

xoxoxo

Unfiltered Fridays – Let’s Get Real.

Unfiltered Fridays – Let’s Get Real.

What is Perfection is a lot of things: It’s a blog. It’s a community, it’s a self improvement tool, an online course database and life-coaching service. I can’t really use one word to define this company. It’s emotional, it is informational, inspiring and helpful.

WIP may be a lot of different things with a lot of different “labeled” but it all comes down to one very important word: Authenticity.

I didn’t start What is Perfection to pretend to be perfect and act like I always have my shit together. I started this company because I was so tired of pretending to be fake and hiding myself. I wanted to show others that living life true to you and being real and raw is the only way to live happily!

The fact that I have learned to authentic, strong and confident in the online platform took me a long time. Especially because I spent years of my life thinking that being “you” and “professional” couldn’t go together in the same sentence. Boy was I wrong.

The more authentic real and raw I am, the more I can help people… that’s been the real big “life lesson” this month.. and I am running with it.

If I am not being true to myself, I am failing myself. and failing my blog. And the girls I coach. Case end point. Lesson learned.

Coming out of my little shell and being able to express myself in this platform has been truly incredible for me and for the girls I coach. I can share every bit of my past with the purpose of teaching others. I have a mission, and I am determined to change lives. But I don’t need to be someone I am not in order to do that. I don’t need to “act a certain way” or “say the right thing for other people.” The more I am me, the more I am honest, the more I can actually make a difference in my communities and with the girls I coach.

 

I want to be able to share my own journey with you too. 

Because the truth is I am still learning new things every single day. I am still building and perfecting my craft, striving to be the best I can be and yes.. sometimes I don’t always do it right. Sometimes I struggle too.  Self Improvement doesn’t end guys – even when you are a coach helping other people.

I am not some fake perfect put together lady who does everything right. I have the coaching knowledge and the power to help others improve – but I am just like every WIP Girl and the What is Perfection reader (and every other human) out there: A Work In Progress.

And I want to prove that to you…. With this new tradition. Getting a little more real and honest about my life struggles and whats going on in my PRESENT life.

So here we go.

Unfiltered Fridays

Let’s get real.

1 – I don’t feel all that great about my body right now. About a year ago when we packed up all of our things and moved out to Connecticut (see our story here) I lost the drive and mission to focus on living a healthy lifestyle. It wasn’t just because we moved. There were a few reasons actually. 1-I became super duper dedicated to What is Perfection and was overly driven to get the business launched and off the ground. 2-I had finally walked away from my career as a TV producer to do it (which took a lot of courage and emotional energy.) and 3-We moved in with Matt’s parents while we shopped for a house – and with mom’s great cooking and a new family environment, it was really easy to gain weight. About a week ago I made a commitment to start prioritizing myself again. I realized that I couldn’t be the best for my business if I wasn’t taking care of my own health and wellness. So I jumped back on the bandwagon for my  healthy lifestyle.  In that time, I have lost almost 5 pounds, but I have a long way to go before I am back to “feeling good.” It makes me feel super frustrated sometimes… like I failed myself. But I know that is not true. And I guess it’s kind of a blessing in disguise to have fallen off track, because now, I can document my journey on WIP!

2 – I’m thinking a lot about sex lately. Not like …. wanting it. Sorry no pervy stuff here. But like… my perception of intimacy.  I think one of my own serious skeletons in the closet is that growing up Catholic, in a very conservative family, Sex was “shamed” ….. It was that “not before marriage for babies only” kinda deal. I remember my mom covering my sister’s eyes when Kate was naked in that titanic scene… Like mom… we know what boobs are… why is this bad? Maybe I haven’t let go of that attitude? Who the heck knows. I would love to be one of those girls who can just talk openly about those things…. and can just be like – yeah.. sex is part of living…big deal! Any thoughts on this? Anyone else feel that sort of old school shame associated with those topics?

3 – Lately I am shifting my mindset and definition of success. I used to think success could be quantified by $$$$. Ya know… How much money in the bank, the size of your house, the type of car, etc. When I was a producer at CBS News I was so super hungry to get those raises and promotions each year. I felt like “If I could just make enough money, then I will feel successful.” Well… guess what –  I never did. And I was making close to six figures! Surprised I walked away from it? Yeah… I think a lot of people were. But I think I realized that Success to me was never going to be about the money. Instead of asking myself “How much money do I have to make?” My question (since running my coaching business) has now shifted to “How many lives can I influence and change? How many people can I help?”  It has been incredibly spiritual for me. I am actually learning to let go of that money making mindset that society  has convinced us is “success” and, instead, I really focus on what makes me feel the most fulfilled – Helping others.

4 – I don’t know when I am getting married. And I don’t feel the pressure to tie the knot just yet. Matt and I got engaged this past year and we moved into our first home only a month ago. I am trying to cherish every single beautiful special moment as it comes – without feeling rushed to move onto the next big step. And as far as babies, right now, What is Perfection is the baby that holds almost all of my attention 24/7. That’s fulfilling enough for me right now 🙂

5 – I am actually more excited for the Brand New Me Course than I have ever been for any of my online courses. My first course launch, the Perfection Program was really a wonderful experience. It was a course I created focused on helping women overcome body image issues and that “obsession with Perfection.” Since then I have launched 4 different online courses – all of which have been amazing. Up until now I was so immersed and in love with the 30 Day program Broken to Beautiful – because it was a 30 Day course focused on overcoming unhealthy relationships and the loss and pain of a breakup. It really was so dear to my heart. I thought I couldn’t get anymore excited about a program after that… but then I created Brand New Me. I feel like Brand New Me is the most beautiful gorgeous life transforming course I have ever designed. And I am so proud of it. Years ago I was that girl who was struggling so much, trying to build her self confidence, trying to feel happy, trying to not fail goals that I set for like. the millionth time. I wanted to be a Brand New happy confident version of myself and had no idea how to do it…. until I found the secret tools. This program is just so exciting to me – to walk girls through the process of transforming their own lives and self confidence …. Ugh I cannot wait. This course is so different than the rest. There are live coaching calls, group sessions and so much more interaction… and I think that is why I am so excited about it. I get to help girls one on one in an engaged group face to face and oh em gee. It just totally fills me  up to see people transform their lives.. I feel like christmas is around the corner with the course starting Sunday. EEK!!! So pumped!

6 -I am a state of giving back and focusing on service. And it has changed my life. When a girl enrolls in a program – I feel inclined to celebrate!When I get comments on Facebook videos where girls say things like “OMG light bulb moment,” or “how are you inside my head right now!?” I start tearing up. And when I get a heart felt letter from a WIP girl on Facebook who’s life has changed I grab the box of tissues and let it all out. I feel fully in tune blessed, grateful and all those feel good vibes. Focusing on you girls has changed my life just as much as I believe it has changed yours… and I am truly truly grateful.

Remember…. where you are is not where you have to be. 

xoxox

 

 

 

How to Stop Stressing Out about Money: Even if you are broke.

How to Stop Stressing Out about Money: Even if you are broke.

Yesterday I posed a question to the Facebook group about New Year problems. I asked WIP Girls – “What’s keeping you up at night?” I wanted to know what was going on from my girls this month so I could figure out exactly how to help them. (if you haven’t joined yet, check out the Facebook group here.) I usually get all different kinds of feedback when I ask questions like that. But this time around, almost everyone had the same pain point with the new year!

And no it wasn’t feeling overweight or struggling with a healthy new year diet. It was all  about the Benjamin’s baby.

Yes. MONEY. FINANCES. BUDGET. Those icky words we hate hearing. Those big adult words we just want to run away from and pretend don’t exist. Those scary responsible words that just make you want run back into kindergarten class and hide under the blankets during nap time with a juice box.

Not like I’ve tried to do that or anything…..

The words may seem scary, but I’m putting them right in front of your face today. There is no ignoring those words in this post. No earmuffs allowed.

Because today  I want you to face the truth.. even if it hurts.

Here it is:

If you are stressing about money, you are doing something wrong.

This is coming from me. The girl who once had a cushy job as a news producer in manhattan – who walked away from all of that with zero prospects lined up.

Yes. I am a loony lady. I got rid of my apartment, put all of my things in storage, and started a business from the ground up. And What is Perfection was born.

Was I scared? You bet your ass I was.

Was I sometimes stressed about money? “Stressed” is an understatement.

But I learned some really big things in my first year of business – grown up things about money and mindset – that have transformed my level of happiness.

Now the thought of money doesn’t even make me bat an eyelash. Zen Buddha girl status over here.

If I compare my full year without a corporate job or steady income running What is Perfection, to the very last year I spent working at CBS with a consistent paycheck. 401k and health benefits –

Guess which lifestyle was more stressful?

WORKING FOR THE BIG MAN.

Yes. Without a job, without cushy benefits – I am actually happier and more financially at ease than I was working back then.

How the heck did THAT Happen you ask? (I hope you are asking that because you are reading this post after all.)

Well… A few small changes had a BIG effect on me.

I changed my money stories. I changed my relationship with money. I changed how I felt about it and what it meant to me.

It’s easier than you think.

And if you are that person out there living paycheck to paycheck – the girl who every month is drinking her bottle of wine trying to pay those last final bills to make ends meet – listen up: You are in the right place to say bye bye to all of that. I’m going to show you how with today’s post.

Don’t worry love…. and sorry in advance if I sound like your annoying old grandma telling you what to do. Like her, I am saying these things because I love you.

How to Stop Stressing Out About Money.

Stop thinking money is scarce.

Money is scarce because you are making it scarce. And no, I don’t mean that you aren’t making enough or that you are spending too much. No. Really. That’s not what this is about. Money is scarce because the minute you get it, you feel like it’s going to disappear. Scarcity is a mindset – and you can’t have it. Especially when it comes to money. It is the reason that so many people overeat (because they feel like when the cookies are in the house they need to eat them before they disappear.) It is the reason that people in unhealthy relationships can start smothering their partners (because they feel that love always disappears so they try to grab as much of it as they can before it’s gone.) And if you are nodding your head yes to those two examples, I am sorry to tell you – the same is true for your money. When you live in scarcity mode, you think money is going to disappear. So what do you do? You RUSH to appreciate and enjoy it the minute you get it.

Stop it girl. Get rid of that limiting belief that money isn’t scarce and get real about the facts: you are the one who will make it scarce with your negative mindset!

Stop telling yourself b.s. stories that you will always have money problems.

I used to be the girl who had money problems… so I guess I feel entitled to say this. I was 60 thousand dollars in debt, homeless and without a paycheck at one point in my life. Where am I now? Well – no debt, a successful business, a happy life and a beautiful home that I own. WEEEE!!! I am no different than you. I am not special or unique or one of a kind. I simply started thinking differently about money problems.

Just a days ago Matt’s car broke down. That same day  he broke his arm. Suddenly in one weekend we had to get his car fixed, get his arm taken care of and (yes, you guessed it) spend a LOT of money. This is something that would have totally stressed me out in the past. Especially because of my money problems and how I grew up. But one thing I learned this past year is that when you tell yourself B.S. stories about how a Money problem is a BIG CRAZY UNFIXABLE disaster – it will always be looked at that way in your life. Back in the day if I was in a situation like that – with a medical bill and car repair all in 24 hours – I would have had a nervous breakdown, cried and ran for the hills. But today, I can just tell myself, “Okay. This is temporary. No permanent problem here!” What’s the big deal about having a little extra charge on my credit card this month? I just make it a point to adjust how I am living until it is paid off. Yes.. sounds too good to be true to live life thinking like that right?

But trust me – if you try to adapt all of these mindsets, this one will come easier than you think.

Stop living like you are poor.

“We can’t afford that.” or “I don’t have the money for that right now.” Guys… I NEVER tell myself these things. Even if they are sort of true. Having the mindset “I can’t afford that right now,” is only going to keep you feeling stuck in your life. I am not saying go out and put a pair of Jimmy Choos’ on credit (more on that in the next mindset tip) but really – you are not poor. You have a roof over your head, you have clothes on your back – you have a million things to be grateful for. And if you are reading this post – you have internet too… sorry to say it – you are doing JUST FINE.

It sounds so harsh and cold, but the truth is we all have this “never enough” mentality. We start thinking that we need to have it all in order to not consider ourselves lower class. But when you live your life with the mindset of “I can’t afford it,” you never will.

Being able to pay for things is not about having the right resources – it is about resourcefulness and finding the way to make it happen. No matter what. If you want something, you will damn sure as hell figure out a way.

Redefine your idea of ‘an investment’ vs. ‘a waste of money.’ Aka. Good debt vs. bad debt.

Okay.. This is going to be SUPER hard to hear guys. Everything you learned about “good debt vs. bad debt” is b.s. I want to tell you something about your expenses and how you live your life – go pull out your statement last month and look at everything you bought that was over twenty dollars and ask yourself these questions:

Did this purchase make you a better person or enhance your life in any way?

The emotional connection you have to your purchases is the strongest biggest most important thing to look at guys.

Did you buy a new outfit that you didn’t really need just because you thought it would make you feel better about yourself? Did it? And will it continue to do so?

Or did you invest in a self improvement course or a new book because you believed it would make you a better more successful more happy person?

Do you see the difference here? One has a return on it’s investment, the other does not.

Now look.. I am not saying you need to go through your budget and curse yourself for every single item you ever bought that was just for that temporary satisfaction – but I am saying those purchases should always be left to a minimum on your expense list.

Majority of your purchases you should be able to go through and say – yes. I needed this, it enhanced my life, it made me better, and I know it will pay off having purchased this in the future.

 

Stop relying on money to make you happy.

And the final most important thing to remember – stop buying shit just to get high from it. Fill your life with meaning and value that can’t be defined by the label in your jeans.

There’s more to life than that ladies.

<3

 

P.s. Did you join the WIP Girl Community Group?

 

The Most Valuable Life Lessons of 2016

The Most Valuable Life Lessons of 2016

I cannot believe that in just two days 2017 will be over. It seems absolutely crazy to me. Maybe it’s the fact that time goes super fast when you are running your own business. Or maybe it’s because I hit so many big milestones this year. But whatever it is, I can’t believe that the year is soon over.

Seriously. Where did the time go?

Every New Year, I reflect back on everything that happened the twelve months before, asking myself if it was everything I wanted it to be.

Did I do everything I promised myself I would do this year? Did I actually achieve my goals? Was this year a happy year? Was it an “accomplished,” year?

It’s almost like I try to find that one word to describe the sum of 365 days. And this year, especially, it feels impossible.

To come up with that one “perfect” word to describe this past year doesn’t work this time around. It was happy and exciting, yes. But 2016 was also a year of big changes. It was a year of growing pains and hard lessons. A year where I grew into myself and What is Perfection blossomed.

But through all of that, there were some seriously important lessons worth sharing.

 

The most valuable life lessons of 2016

Not everyone is going to like you or the choices you make in your life.

I guess this is a lesson I learned years ago, but ever since I launched WIP, the universe started reminding me about this one – slipping in little challenges along the way. Like when I wrote about my rape and sexual assault on the blog, and got some pretty harsh feedback. Some family members thought I was being too open. I thought I was helping other people. Or the time when I took a big leap in my monthly goals last November, and decided to get real and more vulnerable in the WIP Girl Facebook Community Group.  I was scared to be real and vulnerable at first.. because a coach, I think I’m supposed to be Perfect MYSELF, but the truth is opening up without worrying about being “accepted” or “approved of” is one of the best things I ever did for my happiness. Hence my post how to stop caring about what other people think of you.

Being successful at something means you are going to have to fail a million times.

Boy oh boy. As an entrepreneur, let me tell you… this is a hard one that I learned this year. It really is true when you think about it – the most successful people are also the people who’ve failed the MOST in their life. But because they fail so often, they force themselves to learn from their failure and grow stronger. That is success. And running my own company, I see that to be true now more than ever.

Even when it comes to personal goals – healthy lifestyle plans, or just trying to find happiness in a healthy relationship – whatever you are trying to achieve – it is okay to fail a few time before you get it right. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t successful or don’t have your shit together.. it just means you are working at learning the big important lessons that will make you a rockstar in the future.

The road to Perfection is about progress.

I have tried taking the journey to Perfection so many times in my life. I struggled with my self worth and constantly felt like I needed to be Perfect in order to be happy. That journey was a dead end. It got me know where in life. I now know the truth – and it’s what I coach other girls on accepting in their own self love journeys – when you embrace progress -rather than striving for perfection – the doors to an amazing beautiful confident happy life will open. It’s as simple as that.

Self Love is key to living a happy life.

Call it self love, self worth, appreciation, whatever. You need it. It ALWAYS needs to be at the forefront of your life. Because self love is the magical mindset where dreams come true. It is the place where you start believing that you can accomplish things. It’s the focus that you need to invest in yourself because you are “worth that big dream life you always wanted.” Self Love is the source of happiness. Without it – dreams never become reality. You need to love yourself enough to believe you are capable of doing whatever it is your heart desires.

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And so, with that… goodbye 2016.

 

Finally – We are Settled In! WOO HOO!!

Finally – We are Settled In! WOO HOO!!

Oh man oh man have things been crazy. If you follow my Facebook page, you know that the last few days have been INSANE. Exciting, but INSANE.

We moved!!!!

WIP changed locations –  and all our stuff was in boxes (and I had zero internet the last few days.) The move was a little but more chaotic than we anticipated.  But that’s the short answer for why you haven’t seen me hanging around on WIP until now.

Now that we are all settled in and the stress is gone, WIP is back in business!! So I decided to jump back into blog posts with a little exciting “here’s what happened” recap.

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Yay!!!! It was not an easy move though. Not in the least.

WHY THE MOVE WAS CRAY CRAY

1: Moves are ALWAYS hard right!!!?? Especially when you are moving a business, a home, and a big storage unit. Yes. LOTS of stuff. Lots of running around – lots of back aches.

2: It snowed on our moving day. YES. SNOWED. and not like… a beautiful magical flurry…. here – it was a disastrous 8 inches. Lots of snow… and ICE.

3: We live on a hill. A Very large hill. Not like a little Jack and Jill climbed up the hill sweet little hill – I’m talking like a big mount everest full fledge mountain ledge hill. Yeah. So that with the snow was fun.

We definitely made some serious memories in the process of moving.

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OTHER EXCITING HIGHLIGHTS

-Our moving truck almost hit Matt’s car.

-Our movers got stuck on a hill going to our house and almost fell down the road.

-Our moving truck actually got stuck in our drive way and then fell into a ditch.

-A tow truck came. Didn’t help.

-Then the town came and put down salt.

-Then we got charged all this extra money for the crazy luxury of the experience.

(don’t worry, we got it back) 

But yes. It was CRAZY! 

Here’s what I learned…..

I absolutely LOVE my WIP Girls and I missed them so much.

Not having internet drove me crazy! So happy to be back!

Sometimes you need to shut down other areas of your life to focus on big important projects.

So I did! And Now it’s over!

This little original WIP Girl got her shyt together

AND IS BACK!

Lots of awesomeness in-store!

And…. of course – more pictures!

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