I Eat Unicorn Poop (It’s My Super Food)

I Eat Unicorn Poop (It’s My Super Food)

East Coast Alert: A big big snow storm hit last night. Oh… you didn’t know? Well guess what… our plow guy didn’t get the memo either. So Matt and I are pretty much trapped inside our house until next weekend.

We got what looks like three feet of snow out there. It’s nuts. Seriously.

Being trapped in the house yesterday wasn’t all so bad. Especially because I got to make some awesome Unicorn poop cookies. Seriously…. how crazy cute are these? I followed Rosanna Pansino Nerdy Nummies Recipe Here

The girl I used to be wouldn’t have had time for shit like this. I would be too stressed out, anxious and frustrated by the snow storm.

I probably would have spent the whole day cleaning the house, doing laundry and giving my dogs a bath.

What a boring life.

Here’s what I’ve learned about happiness – it comes from not giving a F – and just enjoying life.

Sometimes you just gotta go have fun and be a kid. Live a little bit. Not feel guilty about unhealthily treats. Dance in the snow. Wear your pajamas all day. And eat some unicorn poop.

 

How to Have a Creative + Relaxing Weekend

How to Have a Creative + Relaxing Weekend

Ever wonder what I do every Saturday and Sunday? I mean lets face it: Those are the days where I am totally off the radar disappearing from social media. So what the heck am I doing anyway?

Well.. to answer your question, basically I am doing nothing.

A while back I decided that I wanted to spend more time embracing the flow of life, aka relaxing and chilling the F out. The truth is I spend a lot of time working. Like… a lot. But that’s because I am so passionate about WIP, that it actually doesn’t feel like work.

Okay but still… as fun as it is, I need a break every once in a while. Hard work is hard work no matter how fun it is, and so I still need to recharge and recover like everyone else. I need to take time to breakaway and recharge my brain batteries like everyone else.

So now, weekends are my time for relaxing and being creative. And when I don’t have anything on my schedule (and that’s usually most weekends) I spend a full 48 hours disconnecting, drinking wine, and dancing in my underwear.

Yup. That’s basically my weekend extravaganza. I’m a total wild child, I know.

It may sound boring to you, but honestly I love my weekends. I have so much fun doing nothing, lounging around the house and taking naps in the middle of the afternoon just because I want to. So I thought I would share with you some of the awesome fun things I do on my weekends – so that you can actually sit back, relax and have fun too.

 

Creative and Relaxing Weekends

This weekend was probably one one my most favorite relaxing weekends ever. I opened up my beautiful Erin Condren Coloring goodies for the first time and had a blast recharging my brain. Coloring is seriously one of my favorite forms of relaxing. I actually did a crazy nerdy happy dance when Erin Condren messaged me about the new Coloring collection. I was so happy to try out her new products!

Of course I had to make it an epic experience, so Saturday I put on some music I’ve been really eager to listen to (the Moana Soundtrack because I’m such a nerd,) and sat back with my colored pencils and red wine. Disney Jams and coloring = an amazing day.

And p.s. her new creative collection of Coloring books and pencils is so gorgeous and inspiring.  I really love how she sneaks inspirational quotes into all of her products, like the color pencil set. Even the coloring books had a ton of motivational quote pages to work on. I loved it. Erin Condren is basically my go to for anything creative, inspired and organized. I lover her planners, inspirational prints and her calendars. (Click here >>>>> E.C. <<<< To check out her awesome stuff and get $10 off your order!)

Here Are My Rules for a Creating / Relaxing Weekend

Rule Number 1: I don’t create anything related to work. There is a reason – My brain feeds off creativity. But if I spend too much time creating for the job, I forget why I love creating in the first place! If you’re like me, and make a living doing something you are creatively passionate about, it really helps to add “creating just for fun” into your schedule. Remember, you got into whatever it is you are doing because you are passionate about it! So you don’t want lose that passion being 100 percent devoted to business creation all the time.

Rule Number 2: I shut off social media for at least 15 hours. You would be surprised what a difference this makes. We are constantly consuming content 24/7. And as integral as it is to running an online business, social media and I just need a little romantic time out every once in a while. Every Friday night I have a new routine – I give Matt my phone the minute he gets home from work and I tell him, “don’t give this back to me until ____ time tomorrow.”  That short period of time removing myself from constant interaction and social media engagement makes SUCH a difference in my mood, my personality, and the quality of my weekend. Not to mention it gives me an opportunity to be inspired in new ways! (not just from my Facebook feed.)

Rule Number 3: If It doesn’t relax me, I don’t do it. Okay sure, there are chores that need to be done around the house come the weekend but guess what? I don’t do them. If it does’t fill me up and make me feel good, sorry, I’m not interested. I’ll do it on Monday, thanks. I would much rather spend the weekend relaxing, calming out and getting into my zen zone then folding laundry and moping the floors. What’s the point of a relaxing weekend if you are going to sprinkle it with responsibilities? No thanks.

 

I Have No Idea What I am Doing.

I Have No Idea What I am Doing.

I’m laughing as I write the title of this post. Because honestly, it’s true. I have no idea what I am doing. No, not as a general statement about life. I mean I have no idea what I am doing  writing this post.

See that picture of that pretty notebook? I got it at Barnes and Noble a while back. The truth is I didn’t really need another notebook. I have so many Freaking notebooks. But not one like this. This one spoke to me. So I got it.

Because right now, at this point in time, I feel like I actually am living the story I wanted to tell. And I spend a lot of time telling stories about all the times my life was a total mess – the times I wasn’t living the life I wanted, that I need to honor and appreciate where I am right now.

And right now, I am so truly happy.

I love my life, my business, and the fact I get to coach so many amazing beautiful humans.

And I love that I get to do it by sharing all that I have been through in my life. And I feel so much love because of that. Even though I love being a coach, it wasn’t exactly a position I stepped into with confidence right away. I was actually scared to be a leader and role model for quite some time. Finding that confidence didn’t happen over night. I didn’t wake up and snap my fingers and suddenly get all the credibility and validation to make me feel good. I needed to learn how to let go of expectations and just be myself.

But that’s another story.

The point is becoming a life coach was something that happened organically. I guess it was always within me, but it was a passion I never knew existed. Actually, I knew what I wanted to do the whole time – but I never had a name for it. Now I do.

 

“Life Coaching.”

Yes. I am a life coach. But I am a lot of other things. Finding a balance between all of those things can be a struggle for any entrepreneur. And I have to be honest, every once in a while, the other pieces of my heart feel like they aren’t getting the attention they need.

Case and point – the most recent power struggle: Finding the time to honor the writer in me.

Because before I was a life coach, or a CBS News producer, or actually – anything else in my life – I was a  writer. Even when I was little I was writing poems for the grammar school newspaper.

In middle school I was writing lyrics to my own songs.

In high school I was hoarding a serious journal collection and a couple of written books that never grew into anything.

I loved being a word smith – but a simple word smith at that (I didn’t do so well on the english part of my SATs.)

But it’s who I am. and I love being a writer. I love sharing my stories and being open with the world. It’s the part of me that I think I am the most proud of. That drive to be creative is just something I always cherished. And I feel like lately I am not honoring that part of me the way it deserves to be honored.

I wake up and feel hungry to serve. I check my emails, answer client calls, and do my best to be the best for everyone. And I freaking love it. But when I write, I also feel like I am the best I can be for the world. And I haven’t been able to write and feel that way in a while.

I don’t know if it’s my busy schedule or my greater interest in coaching my clients -but somewhere along the way, I felt like I had nothing to say on the blog. And so I stopped saying anything at all.

It’s time to change that, don’t you think?

 

And I think one of the biggest problems I have is that even when I do know what to say, I have so many crazy platforms that I’m not sure where exactly I should go to say it!

“Do I do a podcast about this?”

“Should I record a youtube video on this topic?” 

“Maybe I should write a blog post.”

“Is my audience sick of seeing me on Facebook live yet?”

I’m still figuring this out too guys.

And I am never going to arrive at the end of a picture perfect business. I am always, always, improving.

The endless growing experience is as fun as it is exciting, and actually why  I wanted to be an entrepreneur (so I could keep growing myself too) it is actually kind of scary sometimes.

Sometimes I worry about stepping into certain platforms at the wrong time, accidentally saying the wrong thing, or maybe even – worse – being unprofessional! AHHHH!

God forbid right?

The point is, I have so many places for my voice to be heard that after years of not having any platform at all, I sometimes feel overwhelmed with the options. I don’t know where to go from here.

But I miss writing. And I want to write.

Not the lame boring how to do X,Y,and Z posts. but the writing about my life! The stories about what is going on and what is happening right now with me and my world. I love sharing that stuff. And I want to share it with you.

So this is what I will say – this is the blog. And sometimes I’ll write how-to posts. Sometimes I’ll share pieces of my life. Sometimes I may even cry out a heartfelt story about some crazy thing that happened.

I am still learning things guys. I am still evolving and growing.

There is no end day in sight. For any of us.

 

Screw Planning. Time for Adventure.

Screw Planning. Time for Adventure.

One year ago I planned  a trip to Florida so I could attend my first Tony Robbins seminar. I went – and it was amazing. The universe is magical, and I think it is only ironic that now, one year later, I am going again. This time it’s in Los Angeles.

WHATUP WEST COAST!

Yup. This morning I sat on my computer, opened up google flights and boom. I made a decision. I am going to L.A.

Life comes full circle. For real.

My second Tony event and an amazing first time visit to Los Angeles are about to go down. And while that all may sound exciting to you, here’s the part that may not sound so good: I don’t have a hotel booked yet. I don’t even have my seminar event ticket yet. I don’t have a car and don’t have any idea how I am getting to and from each airport.

You heard me right. I have zero plans other than the flight booked. And I’m going solo.

And want to know the even more shocking part? It doesn’t bother me at all!

Don’t care. Guess what Tony – I’m coming for yah.

It may seem impulsive to you, or irresponsible. I totally get it.  The old me would have never done something like book a random flight without hotel plans or an itinerary schedule. And a trip on my own? I would have probably cried at the thought.

I used to live my life needing all the details plans and schedules worked out before I so much as left my house.

(Like even on grocery day.)

But I don’t live like that anymore. And it’s a beautiful thing.

I stopped micromanaging my life. I listen to my heart and do what feels right.

And boy does it feel amazing.

 

Disclosure : This is all that’s left of the long post I wrote because I got disconnected from the internet and lost everything else.

Had little internal freakout for a sec, but then I realized the universe was being silly:

“Lauren… you said you don’t micromanage …. go with the flow while I test you – Sincerely, the universe.” 

 

 

No but seriously. I stopped micromanaging.  I think for a longtime I had this big fear that if I wasn’t planning out all the details, then I was being irresponsible and too much of a risk taker.

Guess what: No I wasn’t. And there is no such thing.

My life is so different now. And it is all because I changed how I was thinking.

I stopped limiting myself with the shoulds and the shouldn’ts, the supposed to’s and the not really a good idea’s. Because honestly, what’s the point?

“Don’t buy that you are too broke” will only leave you feeling more broke.

“Don’t wear that your too fat” will only make you feel more fat.

“You can’t afford it,” only means “You aren’t prioritizing it.

I turned off the negative nancys a long time ago guys. Seriously it was the best decision ever.

But every once in a while the “should” monsters come back into my head – not really so much in my person life, but in my business.

“You should be posting on your Facebook every hour, Lauren.”

“You should writing five blog posts a week, Lauren.”

“You shouldn’t be watching TV right now you could be trying to hustle and run your communities online.”

“Don’t shave your legs Lauren, you should be using that time to help others.”

Hustle hustle Hustle.

Running my business with the hustle mindset didn’t do anything – It only made me more stressed and more pressured to keep up with some imaginary “success timeline” that I had mapped out in my head.

“You SHOULD be making more money by now.”

Calling bull shit.

This is my PSA to everyone out there that I am done with the should’s when it comes to my biz.

Why?

Well, because my business thrives on the sole principal of living a life authentically. And in order to thrive, it needs to live up to that standard.

Following some rule book of how to make it big in the online market just seems fake to me.

How can I be teaching people to be their authentic selves if I am not running my business that way?

I don’t want to strategize the topics I write about and “plan them out” because I feel like my creativity should never be forced – or else it sounds forced.

So I stopped planning out my articles based on what should “attract the most viewers.”

I don’t want to carefully select SEO key words to boost optimization of my blog posts because it forces my hand in my writing style and that makes me feel icky.

So I stopped picking topics and seo keywords that should “generate more search engine hits.”

I don’t want to carefully market sales funnels or plan out launches of products in “the ways it works” that are advertised all across social media because I am not in this to make money.

So I stopped trying to sell, and I started trying to serve.

And yes I know I need money to eat and live – but I’m doing just find holding true to my values thanks. In fact, breaking away from those should’s of the business I have actually tripled my income.

Anyone can do it.

But you have to be comfortable with breaking past “what you should be doing” and start thinking for yourself.

Life is an adventure. And my business is a part of that. And I am not playing by the rule book planing shit out for the sake of trying to get ahead or “doing it the right way.”

There is no right way.

The end.

 

I used to never smile…

I used to never smile…

Before I was the “What is Perfection” girl,
I was actually, the “What the heck is wrong with her” girl.
because seriously, I was super miserable in my life.
It was so bad, that in 2009 I attempted suicide. 
My abusive boyfriend had pushed me over the edge. I had enough. 
And I wanted to give up on my life.
So I grabbed a bottle of pills. The next thing I knew,
I was waking up in the hospital with a second chance:
That rock-bottom moment changed everything.
Because I realized that I had a choice:
I could either let my life control me,
or I could fight for my happiness and change it all.
I knew in my heart that I didn’t want live my life unhappy and insecure.
And I knew there was more to living than hating life.
I just had to fight for it.
The lesson here is that our rock bottom moments can be the most powerful breakthrough self discovery experiences… if we let them.
“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.”

Why I Decided to Change My WIP Work Schedule.

Why I Decided to Change My WIP Work Schedule.

I have been emotionally conditioned to think that success only comes with handwork.  I think we all have. “You get what you earn,” “The early bird gets the worm,” and all those other mottos we’ve learned. Well..  somehow along the way of becoming an adult they F-cked me up. Real bad.

The more stressed you are and less relaxing you do – the more successful you can become.

It’s the biggest piece of phony bologna in the deli section.

And I’ve been trained to believe it  all these years.

I’m calling it. Calling bullshit.

I refuse to stress anymore. Stress does not increase your chances of being successful. It only decreases your chances of being happy.  Because a stressful life does not create a fulfilling life.

I refuse to spend countless hours pushing and hustling and exhausting myself only to feel pushed hustled and exhausted. It doesn’t work.

I refuse to think I need to put every single hour of my day aspiring to achieve, because it will only make me feel less inspired and less joyful.

Living life that way does nothing….Except give me big ugly baggies under my eyes and one too many swipes of my credit card at the Wine and Liquor store down the road.

2017 is the year of change for me. And my work schedule and business life is no exception.

I am changing my lifestyle in order to create the best version of myself – So that I can be the best little original WIP Girl role model and mentor there is. And feeling more happy and inspired in my life is my mission.

 

There is no point to living an unhappy life.

Life is meant to be beautiful. It is meant to be fun and adventurous and exciting. And lately I’m realizing that success and stress are not synonymous. They aren’t required to go hand in hand. You can in fact be very successful and live stress free.

The science of success, vs. the art of fulfillment. Sometimes you can have both.

I love my job. I love being a roll model for women, sharing my stories and helping them change their lives. My coaching courses, e guides and books (oh and the podcast…. oh and this blog. Oh and the community) Life is fucking great. And I love what I do.

But after some careful consideration, I decided it was time to really evaluate how I work… because I haven’t been taking care of myself.

And that makes me sad. So here’s what’s happening: I’m freeing my schedule up for some me time. Good old fashion me time.

 

I am no longer being a hustler.

Success and stress are no longer the two S*words I’m living life by. My work ethic is changing. Some people may say that stress is expected when you are successful. I refuse to be one of those people who let’s it into my life. That is not why I became an entrepreneur and started this business. And it’s not what I teach either!

So I’m walking the walk. Changing my S*word.  It’s about Service. And That’s what I’m focused on.

The other day I was deeply meditating and I woke up from my session with a powerful mantra:

“The more you give the more you receive.” 

In my moment of deep meditation, something told me this would be my new life mission – to focus on serving, rather than being successful.

When you focus on serving and what you can give, you will receive so much back. 

And if the more I give the more I receive is true, the same applies to my body.

“The more time I take caring for myself, the more I can give to the world.” 

I need to be the best version of myself. So I can help other people be their best too.

So I completely restructured my work schedule. I took a hard look at the things I do each and every morning.  I realized that from the minute I wake up to the minute  I go to bed I am 100 percent wrapped up in my blog, my course, and my coaching.

And I’m burning myself out. There is little time for anything else when you are wrapped up in your biz 24-7.

So  I decided it was time to really get clear about the things that make fulfilled:

What do I need to do every day to put myself in the best state possible so I can better serve others? 

I made a decision. No working until 10AM.

I made a checklist for myself and decided that in the mornings I am going to spend my time:

Reading

Journaling

Reflecting

Setting three solid intentions

Working out

Meditation

Taking a nice long bath, getting ready and starting my day.

These are the things I know will make me emotionally clear and focused on helping others. And the more I take care of myself, the better I can do that!

Just putting it out there.

The moral of the story is if you’re out there hustling to succeed  – and you’re waiting to be happy and fulfilled in your life… I got news for ya – you’ll never see the day.

Enjoy life NOW. Later isn’t an option.

xoxox

 

P.S. In case you’re wondering – I wrote this post yesterday and scheduled it so that I could be enjoying my morning today <3 As promised.