My little adorable cute puppy Zoey has always been a people pleaser. She gets happy when I’m happy. She gets sad when I’m sad. She is constantly feeding off my energy vibes and just always there for me. And oh em gee is she the cutest. Yeah.. dogs are usually people pleasers.

My little companion is so adorable. But her people pleasing nature got me thinking about something today…. how many of us live life like that? Trying to make other people happy all the time?

People shouldn’t live their lives for the sole purpose of making other people happy. They should live their lives being happy for themselves! And no it isn’t selfish. It’s something you DESERVE.

I used to be the girl who was constantly living my life for other people. I was always looking for love, trying to be accepted, and receive approval from others.

It nearly killed me.

When I look back on that life, it kind of makes me sad. I spent so much time trying to do things that made other people happy that I spent so little time actually living for myself.  It was a crazy messed up people pleaser mentality that really prevented me from being happy.

My days as a people pleaser are long gone. And a lot of that has to do with the fact that I grew some serious self confidence. Having a strong sense of self-worth and being totally inline with who you are is a really powerful personality trait. It was for me. Because when I started to grow my sense of self love, being true to myself came naturally. It was just easier to do.

But before that? Man oh man it was hard. Okay.. Cute puppy happiness.

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AHHHHHH! Okay.. Back to the topic. People Pleasers and Happiness. 

Here are some things you need to know: 

People Pleasers have a hard time being themselves.

Imagine a world where you lived for others. Constantly making decisions for your life based on what you thought would make other people happy, or proud of you. Is that your world now? I hope it isn’t. Because it is a horrible way to live. How can you possibly make choices for your life when you worry so much about what other people want or need from you.

People Pleasers often attract really bad people.

Because when you live your life trying to constantly please other people – the only type of people you attract are TAKERS. People who want to get as much as they can from you giving as little as possible back in return. Ever heard the expression “your vibe attracts your tribe?” It’s

People Pleasers have a distorted view of happiness.

Can’t be happy unless other people are happy? Struggling to feel proud of yourself if no one is there patting you on the back? This isn’t life. this isn’t happiness. This is struggle.

I want you to check out this post on How to Stop Caring What Other People Think (there’s a free worksheet in there for you) 

how to stop caring what others think what is perfection worksheet free guide

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